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[–] Diva@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

it really sucks that the largest trans communities aren't federated.

I really resent the cis people showing up to spread obvious lies. it was hexbear that first defedded blahaj because of the toxic behavior primarily from the 196 mods.

You know what? Fair.

I don't like Hexbear, but r/196 was a toxic cesspool on Reddit, and I've always tried to stay clear of the Lemmy version because of it

[–] MummysLittleBloodSlut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I'm rly glad Hexbear defederated Blahaj because I just don't have the bandwidth to deal with those people most of the time. I always feel unsafe around them as a trans woman, and it's not just the mansplaining and the pig poop balls

[–] Diva@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I always feel unsafe around them as a trans woman

can you elaborate, because as a trans woman I've not felt unsafe at all.

[–] MummysLittleBloodSlut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Any time I said something they disagreed with on a shared community, I got dogpiled with "um, ackshually" style responses or even called a CIA agent. It felt like a hostile and unforgiving place, where I had to measure up to their standards or I'd just be punished. It was easy to feel like I'd be called a slur if I said something about my experiences as a woman they didn't like. I stayed quiet about that sort of stuff when I saw them in a thread because I didn't feel like I could be open, I stuck to things that were less personal to me.

[–] Diva@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 days ago

It was easy to feel like I’d be called a slur if I said something about my experiences as a woman they didn’t like.

Weird, because they ban people for that. I've been called plenty of hostile shit voicing my experiences as a trans woman in shared lemmy spaces too, and it's not from hexbear users.

[–] goat@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 days ago

It's funny how their reaction to you calling them out on dogpilling is to... dogpile on you

lol