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For what it's worth I think it's kinda weird for other guys to not wear a shirt in public, like dude what are you doing, put your shirt on.
Honestly I hate this take, saying everyone should have a to cover up to me is just was weird as saying one group should have to. There is literally no explanation you can give for this position that isn't a personal problem you should get over.
it’s the same kind of statement as saying that, for example, politicians should wear suits… we tend to have expectations that everyone is dressed to a similar level for the context they’re in. in public, that expectation tends to include a shirt of some kind. shirtless is a similar level of “should have to” as arriving at work or a party dressed too casually
But the idea of politicians needing to wear suits is arbitrary too. Why keep meaningless standards? Something should have to be causing an actual problem to not be allowed.
we have meaningless standards for a lot of things… just ask someone on the spectrum what they think of social norms and they’ll have a huge list of things that don’t make any logical sense that people just do
i’m not saying it’s right, but it’s just something that humans do
I get what you're saying. I also think society is too sensitive about nudity in general. I'm certainly not saying men should be fined for not wearing a shirt, it's just my perspective. At the beach or pool is normal, but not just out on the street. Anyway I was only trying to say I don't think stardards between men and women are so different in this particular case. Well I mean standards are definitely different, but (laws aside) not black and white different.
There's also been a rise in swim shirts for boys and men. Which I see as a positive. Especially when it comes to sun exposure
Yeah, basically agree. And if parity is the goal I'd rather see men cover up a little more.