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Aside from men being horny in the 1800s, and this being a holdover since that time, is there any actual reason why this hasn't changed?

If society was dominated by women, would this be more likely to change?

I was sweating my ass off hiking in the hot sun, and the question has been bothering me all day after my top soaked through with sweat.

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[–] communism@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 week ago (3 children)

There was a movement to decriminalise women being topless (because it is actively criminalised in a lot of places). Unfortunately it's fallen off. It's particularly ridiculous because women are the ones who have an actual need to expose their breasts in public, ie some women need to breastfeed—no men need to.

Some people get turned on seeing topless men but it's not a sex crime for men to be shirtless in public. Free the nipple 2025

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Pretty sure breastfeeding is protected all over the US. It certainly is in Florida.

I'm not even big in that department, don't wear a bra for yoga, but running? That needs a sport bra, and working outside I wear long sleeves to keep the sun off.

I do think beaches here should allow topless suits for women though. That might go a long way towards desexualizing simple nudity, people would get used to it. I agree that it ought not be a rule that you have to cover your boobs at all if you don't want to.

[–] drq@mastodon.ml 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

@communism

> Some people get turned on seeing topless men

If someone sees my torso and gets aroused, why is it my problem? Moreover, why is this even a problem at all?

You get hots from other people? Congratulations, you're human.

All of this is such a non-issue. And it's just to keep women down.

@Wahots

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 2 points 1 week ago

Some people get turned on seeing topless men but it’s not a sex crime for men to be shirtless in public.

This is the thing that really bothered me. It's so one-sided. Perhaps people won't be comfortable doing it, for various reasons, but the legal limitation is what actually irritates me. One silver lining is that a lot of places are starting to allow it, even if culturally, it hasn't picked up yet.