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If you found someone attractive, would you date them if you found out they were trans?
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No.
It really doesn't have much to do with their biology tbh, it's because nobody I've ever met who is trans ever shuts the fuck up about being trans.
Be a man or a woman, gay, fucking whatever. I really don't care. Like at all. But I find vanity and self absorption huge turnoffs.
If you want to make your entire identity a single thing I again have no issue with it but I also wont want to be around you.
I dont have a problem with you. I just dont want to stand around beating a dead horse over and over and over again.
Also a penis is a straight up non starter. Everything to do with dudes gives me the ick.
makes sense, I don't particularly like to identify as trans (I don't IRL at all, actually, I'm back in the closet on that one), and I don't love when people are super into making their identity about their gender identity or sexuality (let alone vain and self-absorbed)
that said, I do think a vocal minority are like this, and it makes sense that is what you've been exposed to, I just wonder what your experiences have been like. For example, are you finding this loud trans identity thing happening with trans men you know (or do you know any trans men)?
also heard on the penis thing, it's a common reason people give, though I do wonder sometimes if that issue is a bit exaggerated relative to the realities of a female penis ...