30
Advice for New Bi-guy
(midwest.social)
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
this post was submitted on 10 Sep 2023
30 points (89.5% liked)
Bisexual
1426 readers
3 users here now
This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.
Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.
Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.
At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
What do you mean when you say think ‘about dating preferences without actually dating’?
How do know what kind of people I like, nosurere really
What’s your apprehension about going out and meeting people to help you find what you’re looking for?
I mean by all means jot down a couple of deal breakers for yourself when considering a partner (I.e. non-smoker, doesn’t physically abuse me, no drug addiction etc) but there’s only so far you can go with theorising a partner.
People will surprise you in my experience. Behaviour or characteristics you thought you really didn’t like suddenly becomes irrelevant when it’s the right person.
Also I've moved around a fair bit so again, so making socialconnectionns has never been a strong suit
Going out... I'm a home body and have dealt with a lot of psychological crap over the years. Right now I'm in a good spot and need to make up for lost time socially, I have virtually no experience
To me it sounds like you’re saying this:
Hey Lemmy, I want to learn how to ride a bicycle but I don’t actually want to ride a bicycle as part of learning how to ride one. I also don’t want to make any mistakes learning how to ride a bicycle.
If someone came up to you and said that, would you think that’s reasonable?
Exactly, it's paradoxical and frustrating because I'm trying to do something that doesn't make any sense