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[-] Excrubulent@slrpnk.net 73 points 1 year ago

You can see she really didn't want to address it at first. Like she immediately apologised, then the host stopped her to ask about it and she cringed when she said he had touched her. Only after the host put a stop to everything did she call the guy out on it, which she handled really well.

It seems to me her first instinct was that this could become a real problem for her, and she was safer just letting it go. It's also probably way more normal for her than for the host.

One good thing is she is the visible person and the guy who assaulted her was just some random guy, so public opinion should easily go in her favour.

[-] snek@lemmy.world 41 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

As a woman who got harassed nearly every day in the country I lived who responded to at least 40% of those with yelling and middle fingers, it's not fun, it takes a toll on you, and some days you have to choose your battles carefully. That being said, I carried a taser gun and it made my life easier. When I left to another country that was safer, I gifted said taser gun to an American girl who was in that country in exchange and was sexually harassed by a taxi driver who drove her somewhere "hidden" and tried to kiss her and she found it hard to handle things after that.

Edit: made some things bold

[-] Excrubulent@slrpnk.net 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You're absolutely right, and I wasn't trying to criticise her for any of her decisions here. Honestly without the host intervening she was probably making the best choice to keep herself safe.

It clearly would've been easy for everyone involved to dismiss the moment and let it go if they'd chosen to, and it seems like she didn't feel like she could do anything until her host stopped things and gave her implicit permission to confront the guy.

I'm AMAB NB myself, but grew up pretty cis-passing, and I would've been pretty oblivious to most of the things she was doing here because my upbringing allowed me to be.

My point in making that comment was to help other oblivious AMAB folks see that the extraordinary part of this situation wasn't the fact a woman was assaulted, because that is going on constantly. The extraordinary part is the attention it received, and the fact both her and the host took action to make sure it got attention.

[-] Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

I would hope if things escalated the camera man would have intervened...

[-] magnetosphere@kbin.social 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah. She’d probably been passively (or maybe even actively) taught that ignoring and tolerating abuse was the “professional” thing to do… that it was the price she had to pay for being a woman.

Fuck that noise. I’m glad to see this issue getting the attention it deserves.

this post was submitted on 15 Sep 2023
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