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My wife and I had a similar conversation the other day. The kids were being a handful, and she said, "Why do people even have kids?"
And I said it's because society lies to you. "You'll never feel emotionally/mentally/financially ready for kids. Just do it!"
I always tell people that you need to be 110% sure. I wouldn't trade my kids for anything, but I sure do miss the quiet, free time, and extra money.
That's basically the biggest lie/bullshit you can ever hear. You can always be ready for kids. I just need $75+k a year and I'll be more than happy.
And for most people that day never comes and THAT'S PERFECTLY FINE. It is horrifying that something as extreme as creating a human from nothing is seen as something that people should just do. Baffling.