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What words, phrases or signs do you use and how do you get your partner's attention?

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[-] 1bluepixel@lemmy.world 54 points 1 year ago

My spouse and I lived in a bunch of countries over the years. We speak Quebec French, English, and Spanish, as well as a smattering of Chinese, Bulgarian, Korean, and a few odds and ends here and there.

We basically speak whatever we think people around us won't understand. Very colloquial Quebec French in non-French-speaking countries, Chinese around white people, Bulgarian around non-white people, or even a cryptic mix of everything when we're not completely sure.

We figure anyone who understands is probably someone we want to know... Hasn't happened very often, but it does happen. So far we weren't saying anything overly embarrassing when we got caught, but we sure as hell have no filter between us because of this!

[-] Drusas@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

I've taught my husband to speak a bit of Japanese, but we don't use it this way because that's extremely rude.

[-] 1bluepixel@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I wouldn't say we speak in people's faces, but we make comments to each other about random stuff. I would never say something rude about somebody in their faces, but my spouse might go, "Can we go back to the hotel, I really need to take a shit" or something silly and unfiltered like that.

[-] Drusas@kbin.social 0 points 1 year ago

I get it, I just still think it's rude and avoid doing so myself.

[-] putoelquelolea@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago

It's rude for spouses to have a private conversation? Would whispering be better? Would it be better if they hid in a cupboard where no one could see them?

[-] Kepabar@startrek.website -1 points 1 year ago

Yes, it's generally considered rude to switch languages specifically to hide your conversation.

It's because most will assume you are doing it to talk shit.

[-] putoelquelolea@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Sure, if people suddenly switched languages and then laughed in my face, I would feel bad.

But if it's like the other comments in this post, and it's a couple having a quick word about a private matter, I wouldn't mind. It's not like I should be a part of that conversation

[-] Subverb@lemmy.world -1 points 1 year ago

Which they are.

Agree, it's rude af.

[-] monk@lemmy.unboiled.info 1 points 6 months ago

Tell me you're insecure without saying you're insecure.

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