I just had a bad experience with a discord group of mods and Admins. It was an open server, but the focus was on a very specific population. It had dozens of channels, none really specific to the focus of the server.

There wasn't a heavy flow of conversation, so when one would start and the topic would veer towards a different channel topic, the mods would immediately delete the entire conversation and warn everyone about keeping the conversations to their related channels.

Also, there have been several new people to the server that were definitely not part of the intended audience for it. They would come in and start being loud and annoying, but the mods wouldn't kick them even though the new users would blatantly state the reason they joined was because they thought it was funny.

I eventually got angry with the mods when they added another and it was apparent they had no intention of cleaning up the server and making it more friendly and usable. So I gave them a piece of my mind and basically just told them everything I had issue with like I did above. I knew they were going to ban me, I asked them to ban me. That server brought me no joy.

Was I rude? Depends on your viewpoint. I didn't drop any slurs, but I did it in the open and I cussed a couple times. But also, the mods both weren't doing their jobs and were acting as kings of a tiny castle. Be respectful and listen to what people are saying. You may be missing something they are pointing out, and while they are the only people saying it, I promise other people are thinking it.