for some reason I haven't been feeling "bi enough" recently (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by sleepybisexual@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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I really love being bi and believe I fall under the umbrella but I don't feel attracted to the same sex enough to be bi.

I still find the same sex hot but it feels like I don't feel that enough to be bisexual. This just feels strange

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[-] Evergreen5970@beehaw.org 20 points 1 year ago

bisexual: sexually or romantically attracted to both men and women, or to more than one sex or gender.

Nowhere here does it say you have to have your attraction equally split between genders. You can be attracted to the opposite sex way more often than you are attracted to the same sex and still be bisexual. 95% opposite sex, 5% same sex still qualifies.

[-] Gaywallet@beehaw.org 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

My favorite definition is as follows

The capability to experience attraction to more than one gender

I like it for the following reasons:

No weird requirements around action vs. attraction - people know who they're attracted to before they've had sex
Allows space for bisexuals who primarily experience attraction towards a very limited group of individuals as well as for people who experience attraction to nearly all individuals
Eliminates issues with sex/gender essentialism