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Boys refusing to do an exercise about imagining a day as the other gender represents a social problem, not a men problem. High school boys who refuse to imagine themselves as someone else were taught to be resistant to that idea, and not only by men but society as a whole.
I feel like this is already devolving into an almost semantic-like argument about whom to blame: boys, the men they become, societal expectations, societal reinforcement, parents, religion...can we throw the word "blame" out for a minute? I was wrong to assign blame. Blaming men isn't going to help and is just making it worse, and frankly distracts from the real issue. I took a destructive approach and would like to rewind a bit.
Ok, so assuming I haven't lost everyone, how do we ~~solve this problem~~ improve this situation in the long term? We can all agree behavior is learned, right? So maybe agree on education (general education/child-rearing, not necessarily only formal school education), and go from there?
Maybe we stop with top down one size fits all solutions to human interaction? The article is a good example of part of the problem, as it seems to exonerate one group while putting all the onus for change on the other. Mainly by it having essentially a single position from all them people that the author uses as sources and references and the narrow scope that they actually show.
Agreed. No one's to blame but should work on fixing it