makes sense...
personally, i see this as a flaw in federation in general. Even diaspora's end goal, originally, was everyone running their own instances.

the biggest hurdle though, is getting people to care. Which happens temporarily, every once in a while... like when reddit fucked everyone over with api changes.

i tried to get everyone i know on diaspora when that was happening... got one person to try it for a second. At least with lemmy i don't have to know anyone else on here, so it just feels like the better og reddit anyways...