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Try to understand why they believe what they do. Ask them about their sources, and their experiences. Be friendly, and ready to question your own convictions, if you want a dialogue and not a fight.
Make understanding your main objective, don't expect to change their minds. Understanding why they think like they do will make your life easier. Them understanding your motives, that you're not simply a brainwashed woke brat, will make your life easier.
I know why they think the way they do, and it's brainwashing from being raised Christian. I was raised that way so I do understand the thought behind it, but it's so hard to have compassion for people who never care to try to understand people who don't believe in that. I'll try though.
Aye. Understanding it doesn't make them easier to get along with.
My da has unprocessed trauma yet refuses to address it, saying that his mental illness is cured because of Jesus. And if I was a good Christian, I would be cured, too.
Like.... my dude: a big part of my mental illnesses stem from my upbringing with you, but okay.
The days of trying to be understanding to the other side are long over.
But also know that understanding isn't always going to bring resolution. Sometimes all you come to understand is that the people who raised you are, in actuality, thoroughly racist.