Older women, women with weight changes or visible disabilities, or transfolk of Lemmy - how has the male gaze changed for you? (sh.itjust.works)

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Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I'm curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

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[-] moistclump@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago

Are you asking as a male or someone who’s transitioning out of young womanhood?

[-] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 16 points 5 months ago

I'm a boring guy like from an insurance commercial, just curious what it's like on the other side and especially in the way that experience changes! The categories in the title were the first I thought of for people who may have passed through or into a peak of sexual desirability. It's probably fraught question, and I'm sure I'm phrasing it indelicately.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 9 points 5 months ago

Are you wearing khakis?

[-] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 15 points 5 months ago

Kakhi shorts and a polo, yes! May I interest you in saving on your insurance by bundling home and auto?

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

Sure. You just find a home in my price range, and a bank willing to loan money, and I'll do the home insurance with you.

[-] ramble81@lemm.ee 6 points 5 months ago

How does that change people’s responses?

[-] fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 5 months ago

I guess maybe less effort put into advice vs just explaining what they experience?

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