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this post was submitted on 23 Jun 2024
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Ideally it'd be B. as it should have been from the beginning, but that's unlikely. The next best option is C.
A. is not an option, you really do need to be plain with them about how badly it's affected you and you're well within your rights to crack the shits. Tell them even that you keep getting woken up by the cops and with the lack of sleep could lose your job. Really be straight up about what's been happening or they possibly will allow the same shitshow to continue.
You're not entitled or a snowflake. Don't let them gaslight you into tolerating this situation because it's more convenient for them to be lazy.
They screwed up and put this kid in a setting that he wasn't suited for and it's disrupting your stability. They need to fix it.
I have been honest with them about how I've been affected by it all. I sent it to my entire care team last monday morning a few hours before I had a care team meeting. I have a few really supportive people in my care team, and 2 of them wrote letters about the situation, too. That's probably a large part of the reason why I ended up in this hotel so quickly.
From what I've heard, I actually think C is the best option. Apparently in the weeks leading up to his move in, he was saying he didn't want to move here, and I've been told he still doesn't want to be here. It also seems that a lot of the things he's done since moving in have been the result of wanting to be kicked out. Lead tenant is meant to be a voluntary program, and it doesn't work if people don't genuinely want to be here
Thanks for saying that, I've been struggling to talk about it because I know many people have been through worse things, and by world standards I'm in a good situation. It doesn't help that I've actually experienced much worse living situations before, I've seen how bad things can get. So being so down while being in a much better position than I was 3 years ago makes me feel ungrateful and selfish.
I get it. It's very normal though. There's a difference to being in a situation for so long you kind of numb out a little vs experiencing something better and then losing that hope. Also some of what you're experiencing could still fall under the heading of institutional abuse.
IANAL and not familiar with the eligibility criteria, whether there's a child protection specific instance, but I do know there are organisations to protect vulnerable people in resi. Perhaps you might be able to find an independent visitor or someone to advocate for your best interests in all this. Because this current bunch aren't...
This one is in Queensland but perhaps there's a Victorian equivalent https://www.publicguardian.qld.gov.au/i-am-a-child-or-young-person/who-can-help-you/community-visitors
Ok, if you scroll down there's an entry for the Community Visitors Program in Victoria https://providers.dffh.vic.gov.au/useful-contacts-supported-residential-services https://providers.dffh.vic.gov.au/useful-contacts-supported-residential-services
Whether or not you want to contact them is up to you, as you've seen there can be blowback from mismanagement and complaining is risky when the organisation controls where you live. But definitely keep that in your back pocket if they try to send you back into an unsafe situation. Perhaps even call them now with a view to asking if they can help you