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I've never thought about it until now, the only times when I ever felt fulfilled is when I'm doing something for others and helping them achieve their goals. I myself have goals and dreams of my own but I've never feel motivated to work towards them for myself, it just feels like a boring chore.

And thanks to that, my life is an absolute mess now, I know what I should have done for my own good but I just couldn't find the will to do it without someone forces me, and sometimes even that doesn't work.

I'm not saying I'm a good person, I'm anything but a saint, I might enjoy helping others but for some I just don't give a damn.

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[-] foggy@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Gotta learn about the three yous!

There's past you, present you, and future you.

Everything in your life that's in order is more or less thanks to past you (and family etc).

Present you, you're out here doing favors for future Bob and future alice. Do something for future you.

Just disconnect the idea of future you from "you" and you're fine.

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