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Be the rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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ID: Bold multicoloured text "Be the reason why a fascist feels excluded, shunned, discarded, unsafe, and worthless."

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[-] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 42 points 6 days ago

Let them know they'll be welcome once they stop being fascists. The only good fascist is a dead one, but killing fascists isn't the only way to get rid of them.

[-] monsterpiece42@reddthat.com 7 points 5 days ago

This 100%.

Sometimes you can be the hug they never got when they were a little kid and their fuckhead dad beat them instead of letting them be gay (or whatever authentic self got crushed).

I'm not saying you should put a huge amount of work into this but sometimes being kind and meeting someone where they're at even if they're super wrong does more to break the mold than to be a dickhead back. These people have a lot of experience doubling down to resistance, and if you surprise them with kindness it can shake up the whole setting.

That said, if you're kind and try to teach them, and they're still bastards/non-receptive, then move on and change the minds you can. Don't waste your time on people that don't want it.

[-] JillyB@beehaw.org 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I've recently made this decision with my lifelong closest friend. I've known about his changing views for a while but its really hard to let go of a friend I've had for 15 years. I justified it to myself because I wanted to make sure he had my perspective around and I thought he was starting to mellow out. Turns out he was just learning to avoid politics around his friends.

It came to a head when I moved to a new city and he stayed with me for 2 weeks. After hanging with my local friends for a year, I realized I was always avoiding the elephant in the room with him. When I introduced him to my friends, I realized I was really hoping he wouldn't say anything crazy. I was really hoping my trans friend wouldn't show up in case he decided to make that a focal point. He's been "getting more religious" (dominionist, christo-fascist). And I can tell he's still disguising himself even when we talk openly about politics and religion.

More recently, two other friends stayed with me for a week. They're also long-time friends with the first guy. We all collectively realized that we were much more comfortable around each other than we were around him. I was excited to introduce them to my local friends. I never had to pick my words or hold my tongue. So I'm going low contact with him. It sucks but I can't call someone a friend that has such fundamentally opposed values to my own. If it were just a difference in how much taxation is the right amount or how healthcare should be administered, I could look past it. But he's gone pretty authoritarian and believes some of my other friends shouldn't exist. I can't reconcile that.

[-] TheBat@lemmy.world 23 points 6 days ago

Excluded?

Bro they have all the power in USA.

[-] Taleya@aussie.zone 1 points 5 days ago

Someone who has to push others down to raise themselves up has no power at all

[-] TheBat@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

Not a great quote to use about a country with largest air force and navy...

[-] Skydancer@pawb.social 27 points 6 days ago

Be the reason why a fascist feels unsafe.

[-] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 6 days ago

I'd been needing some new weightlifting motivation, and this is so it

[-] BreadOven@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago
[-] whithom@discuss.online 32 points 6 days ago

I am :( but they keep telling me we need fascism to get rid of fascism.

[-] belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org 24 points 6 days ago

Tankies are just fascists with a different hat on

[-] Midnitte@beehaw.org 13 points 6 days ago

Ah, the ol' managed democracy.

[-] whithom@discuss.online 7 points 6 days ago

It’s still socialism… just with more tanks!

[-] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 6 days ago

So low-strata fascists are typically like low strata cultists^†^ in that they're typically drawn in by neo-nazis (or whoever) giving an ounce of regard to them when they're alone and socially isolated. The indoctrination and costly identity markers follow.

At least this is my take based on stories I've heard from those who have escaped hate groups, militant groups and dangerous NRMs. Transition from membership to outsider (optimally involved in more benign social groups) is difficult and takes a while.

That said, fascists are dangerous both by being politically active (in the US, politically active in a system where safety checks have been stripped away or subverted) and by being violent or engaging in direct action. And in these cases, doing what is necessary to stop them can qualify as self-defense.

† As a cult researcher, I feel the need to define this, since cult is a loaded word. By low-strata cultist I mean a low-rung member of a dangerous NRM or seller from an MLM.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 8 points 5 days ago

I actually have been that in the past year. Helped organize his victims to kick him out of a local community.

[-] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 5 points 5 days ago

I'm getting emotional whiplash from the amount my emotions go from "fuck them all violence is the only answer" to "you should keep an open door for when their faces are undoubtedly eaten by leopards and need help"

[-] hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 days ago
[-] snottrockett@lemmy.world 10 points 6 days ago

I find this depressing. The only thing this world isn't really trying these days is to reach out and be there for people almost unconditionally. It's lame, but, we still need to be the change we want to see in the world. The less light there is in the tunnel. the darker it gets.

[-] Burn_The_Right@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago

A conservative sees empathy as a weakness. Save your light for those who will value it.

Reach out to unforgivable, unredeemable sociopaths?

[-] MacAttak8@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago

I think you may not realize that for most people they were already “almost unconditionally” supportive of others.

However, a lot of people feel that the conditions have been met, or, the line has been crossed where they can no longer morally support the other side.

So people have been “almost unconditionally “ supportive as you say you want.

[-] BreadOven@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

I really did used to think like this. Like, what would make a person adopt such an ignorant stance such as fascism, racism, etc. I used to feel sorry for them.

It's just been too much lately. I don't feel sorry for them anymore. They are in the wrong and should know it. They should feel unsafe regurgitating the foul rhetoric they believe. It used to be (at least somewhat) that way.

I'm not even American, but everyone is feeling the repercussions of this travesty we all witnessed on Tuesday. It's not direct repercussions, but soon will.

Jesus wept (I'm not a Christian).

[-] cuchilloc@lemmy.world 10 points 6 days ago

When your friend has an addiction, you try to support him to quit. If a friend turns into a fascist , you should support him to quit, exclusion will only make him more extremist :(

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 16 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Excluding them is how you force them to quit. But you need to not just exclude them from your group; you must also prevent them from joining other fascists. Make them rightly feel that fascism leads to being alone.

[-] candybrie@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

How do you do that? Unless they're your kid, you don't usually have that kind of control over another person.

[-] EndlessApollo@lemmy.world 0 points 6 days ago
[-] EndlessApollo@lemmy.world 10 points 6 days ago

No, if you're a fascist you deserve only horrible things and no redemption, period :3

[-] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

But I like excluding people because it creates a strong sense of unity and identity within my group, making me feel superior and distinct. This gives me a sense of control and power, which is deeply satisfying, and it simplifies the world into clear categories of "us" versus "them," providing comfort and certainty in an otherwise complex and chaotic environment.

Edit: plus, I can't relate to fascists at all

[-] yetAnotherUser@lemmy.ca -4 points 6 days ago
[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 3 points 6 days ago
[-] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 6 days ago

I can't find it anymore, but I remember enough to say that that's not what it was labeled on textstudio.com lol

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