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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

I think my baseline for existence would be continuous pain and immobility so as long as I'm doing better than that I'm in the + column for remaining alive and embodied. I can walk, read, eat and drink, fuck, work, hear, see (kind of), touch things, listen to music, dance... Not gonna be able to do any of that without a body. So in the selfish way, I want to be alive to enjoy all that, it's well worth the pain of existence to me.

In the unselfish way, I know the difference between losing an old relative to old age, and a younger relative to suicide. The former doesn't hurt, you know they got a good run, can celebrate their life. The latter can really shatter the lives of everyone close to you, in a way that causes grief so lasting and physically and emotionally damaging. I wouldn't do that to anyone.

[–] metaStatic@kbin.earth 5 points 3 weeks ago

it's gonna happen anyway without even trying, and in the meantime I can do a whole bunch of interesting drugs.

[–] Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago
[–] GladiusB@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

Baked goods

[–] finitebanjo@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Just about every single attempt to self-terminate stems from a systemic flaw or imbalance in the fragile human form. Pretty much always treatable. What seems logical now might seem silly later. Don't let irrational mentality run your life or your death.

Also, there are people who oppose you. Fuck those people. Your life ending would benefit them, therefor you can never die.

[–] Schlemmy@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 weeks ago

My best friend ended his life nearly tw o years ago. I am still mournig and feel like I will never get over it. I cry at least once a week.

[–] hitagi@ani.social 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I think Albert Camus' Myth of Sisyphus addresses this somehow.

[–] Fashim@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Somewhat, it seems reasonable for one to throw their life away if they come to the conclusion that it has no meaning or purpose yet they are constrained by human nature to search for it.

Camus argues that we should revolt against this and embrace life regardless of how meaningless it is, he uses Sisyphus as a comparison to the absurdity of all this, pushing the boulder up the hill and watching it fall back down again is the only life, a meaningless one, that Sisyphus knows yet he is still able to find purpose in it and revolt against the gods.

EDIT: I realise I've essentially paraphrased the Wikipedia article, so apologies

Camus is great, and the Myth of Sisyphus is definitely worth a read especially for those with existential despair but I don't think it's a panacea for the causes of suicide unfortunately.

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

With the right attitude, you can find someone who will end it for you.

Too depressed to become a revolutionary 😓

[–] Brkdncr@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago

Who is going to change the smoke alarm battery?

[–] charade_you_are@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

That next great show is only like 5 years away

[–] vane@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

To look out at the ocean, hear the waves and birds, walk barefoot on the grass, run naked in the rain, climb the mountain, unite with nature.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 weeks ago

Because even when life throws you lemons you can still taste.

[–] livingcoder@programming.dev 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

There are so many ways to be a hero for those around you. Why end your life when you could dedicate your life to help those in need? When you feel at your lowest, remember that there is someone, right now, who wants to know and believe in you and who hopes that you could do your very best to help them and others.

This is intended to be motivating. Instead of leaving a hole in the world, you could become a role model for others.

[–] Kissaki@feddit.org 3 points 2 weeks ago

Taking action takes effort.

[–] Semjaza@lemmynsfw.com 3 points 2 weeks ago

A good cup of coffee.

[–] 30p87@feddit.org 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)
[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Why does this blank comment have 3 upvotes? 🤔

[–] datavoid@lemmy.ml 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Dark ~~humour~~

[–] Kissaki@feddit.org 2 points 2 weeks ago

Maybe it's interpreted as "there is no good reason"?

[–] basketugly@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

No one knows what happens when you die, things could get worse after death and in that case suicide is not a solution but rather a next step towards something even worse.

Given that it is currently impossible (as far as I know) to know what happens at death, the decision to suicide is an uninformed decision of tremendous magnitude.

If by killing yourself things get worse, what would be the next step?

Would you be in a better position to turn things around in the afterlife (assuming that there is one) or now in this life?

In summary, the reason why you should not kill yourself is because you do not know what will be the result of that action your death: your death is not a guaranteed solution to anything.

[–] homura@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

I don't know any

[–] thatradomguy@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

I just want to lose my virginity... lmao. And then next best thing would be to have an actual relationship with someone instead of the abusive one I have with my alone time hand.

[–] HipsterTenZero@dormi.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

there might be some media that'll come out that you're super into. Or like, you might see a friendly dog outside

[–] JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee 3 points 3 weeks ago

The one that kept me alive was that I couldn't make the world better for others, even in a small near-insignificant way, if I were dead. And it would be a bit pointless to die if everyone else is still going to live a life of suffering, especially as I can't be sure reincarnation isn't true.

[–] PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

Ammo is expensive and I can have more fun drinking and get the same result later down the road anyway

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I have ten I could name and have named. The three that particularly would resonate with me are the idea I might still owe people things, there being less extreme ways of going about my issues, and the thought of what happens after death.

[–] Anti_Iridium@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago
[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

What's been keeping me going for 20 years is VR. I truly believe we'll see full-dive VR in the next 30 years. I've been watching the progress for decades and the progress is staggering if you look at the big picture. Someday I'll be able to plug into a fantasy universe fully and slay dragons and have epic fantasy adventures. That's worth holding out for.

[–] SolarPunker@slrpnk.net 2 points 2 weeks ago

Science, pancakes, art, philosophy, cats.

[–] fakir@lemm.ee 2 points 3 weeks ago

Because you have a destiny and a purpose way beyond your current comprehension and it is so much bigger than whatever misery you are feeling at any point in life. You have to find what that destiny and purpose is, believe me, because otherwise it would only be a massive opportunity squandered. Let me explain - you are the universe itself, so incredibly lucky to be able to come alive, with an opportunity to experience and appreciate the universe itself, there is a much bigger connection you have to the stars and to all that has life. If you are true to yourself and chase what your heart desires and remove all the noise, you will find your purpose, also called self-actualization. Not to mention you are living in the most comfortable, connected, beautiful time any species including humans was ever afforded. On separate note, it is very understandable and valid if you feel like shit given the current affairs, but if you believe me, this had to happen, and this only means better times will be here sooner rather later.

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

For me it's new Silent Hill games. Also the hope that one day i'll have friends and a partner. It might help if I left the house. Anyway, at the very least don't give up before you've really tried. Maybe I'm projecting but I hope this helps. Please don't kill yourself if you're thinking about it.

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

I want to outlive this shitty marriage I'm stuck in, sort out my finances, and take back my own life. I'm sick of being called a fucking cunt or accused of hiding money or all the shit he's saying to me, none of which is true. He's a malignant narcissist and I'm so tired of living like this.

[–] Eeyore_Syndrome@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Me personally:

Un-alive over 9000 fascist's.

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