No matter how many books , videos you see , you cannot learn how to swim without entering the pool.
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I don't necessarily think it's underrated because it's the underpinning of a major religion, but;
Existence is suffering.
The first noble truth of Buddhism that I don't think enough people really grasp.
On first read, those three words sound like an angsty teen being all sad, but a deeper exploration tells us that to expect a life of ease and unending contentment is to set ourselves up for continued disappointment and anguish.
When I first really absorbed the meaning of this it actually made me feel incredible. I am alive, therefore my knee hurts. I am alive, so I'm worried for the welfare of those I love. And when I considered it even further I began to understand that this is something that connects us all, regardless of our status in the world. From the most powerful kings and presidents to those sleeping rough begging for change; we are all fundamentally the same.
For me, it's really helped me to push through boundaries that have stopped me being more assertive with those who are more powerful than I am; managers, bosses and such. My boss worries about stuff the same way I do. It's probably different stuff, sure, but he's still experiencing existential pain.
I am not a Buddhist, nor am I particularly spiritual. But I take a lot of inspiration from that phrase.
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"Trust no one - not even yourself"
My dad told me this while going through a divorce. He was also going through a criminal trial due to his deviance.
Its one thing that stuck with me and I wish it didn't.
Another one is from Lenin: " 'There Are Decades Where Nothing Happens' and 'Weeks Where Decades Happen' "
The Lenin one has been on my mind for like a year now. We're coming up on the anniversary of the February revolution and I'm hoping that as things get worse we'll see the point where we have had enough.
Plenty of big flash points at current. I think we are seeing capitalism in disrepair, similar to 1920 Europe, world powers are rebalancing and competing for the now very limited resources. The working class are taking the brunt of the hardship and seek real change, and when trump can't make good on those promises we will see a real struggle.
Good luck out there comrade.
Dad told me when I was young to "learn to drink your coffee black and cold and you'll never be disappointed."
I don't think he was just talking about coffee.
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A evergreen quote:
Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.
"Like they should have stopped Hitler at Munich, they should never let him get away with that, they was just asking for bad trouble." Peter Clemenza, The Godfather
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Life's tough for everyone
-Grandpa
"Don't follow people - follow ideas" which seems more relevant today than ever before it seems.
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Men are scared that women will laugh at them , women are scared that men will kill them.
Hitchens on the death of Jerry Falwell: "If they gave his corpse an enema, they could bury him in a matchbox."
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βIt only ever ends once, everything before that is just progressβ -Jacob from lost lol
Perhaps today is a good day to die. Prepare for ramming speed!
No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun.
"Nobody will take care of you if you don't take care of yourself"
Apply this to pushing back on contracts, double checking what you're asked to do, and putting yourself first, and you'll get a lot more respect in my experience. If you primarily put others first, your self will feel neglected. It doesn't mean you should not care for others, but that your highest priority should be yourself, and then others.
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Wen in dbt breath deep
"Someone once said that love is the best medicine. He was wrong, though; its crack." Source Unknown
"be someones angel"
quote from this little video that really stuck with me, as silly as it might sound
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Itβs always darkest before the dawn.
How I interpret it is that when things get bad, and reach a new level of bad, that could be just what is needed for the pendulum to swing the other way, and swing extra hard.
Kind of like a Great Depression giving labour laws kind of a thing.
Gives me hope.
"republicans are pussies" - me. thanks
The worst decisions make the best stories. - *Unknown *
Those who don't know history are doomed to repeat it. Those who know history are doomed to know it's repeating.
It's the second part that makes this otherwise well know phrase hit much closer to home for me.
Golf: A nice walk, ruined.
You can't leave the party if you can't find the door. Randall Jacobs, aka Uncle Bunky