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[–] python@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sometimes I question my gender but then I realize that if I were born AMAB I'd just end up as a femboy with exactly the same expression as I already have smh

Gender is made up anyway. Just wear what you like and pursue the body you want, whatever that means to you :)

[–] thespcicifcocean@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

How does it work if I fit most of these criteria but am not currently a cat femboy boyfriend? Should I expect my cat ears and stockings to come in the mail or something?

[–] hmmm@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Baah, I can't even find one. Someone help ( ; ω ; )

I’d help you if I knew where to find another one!

[–] Zzyzx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 37 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I was wondering if I am a femboy, and then realized the joy of being genderfluid means that I sometimes am I guess

[–] coacoamelky@lemm.ee 24 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What is the chemical composition of this gender fluid? I have experiments to conduct.

[–] Zzyzx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 2 days ago (1 children)

In my case, probably mostly depression lol.

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Wow I'm transfem and the only difference between this femboy and me is the gender identity

[–] icmpecho@lemmy.ml 2 points 11 hours ago
[–] kittykittycatboys@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

hey mods doxxing isnt okayyyy(wawa this is so me)

[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

Omg I was literally about to send this to u

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 2 days ago

I tick a loooot of these boxes. 😶

No desire to be a boy tho.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 days ago

The only reason I'm technically bi

[–] HoodieGyaru@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Where is my clingy femboyfriend? 😩

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 days ago

We're all on the internet rn because outside is getting v scary

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 12 points 2 days ago

If I knew how to find one, I’d tell you!

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Hey I have plenty of kissing experience thank you.

Also there is no chance of me topping. I was assigned bottom at birth.

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I wish I had kissing experience D:

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I bet I could show you the basics :3

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago

Oooh yes please~

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

So relatable. Me and my boyfriend tick a surprising number of these.

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago

So jealous!!

[–] UraniumBlazer@lemm.ee 15 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Sigh... Another thing I want but can't get :(

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Femboys exist in real life! There are dozens of us!

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago

Dozens I say!

You can get OwO. There's peeps like meowt there!

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago

Aye, same here 3:

[–] quantenzitrone 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I feel like I might be in a pipeline to this.

Quite a few points fit me, more than a few years ago.

[–] coacoamelky@lemm.ee 7 points 2 days ago

Why don't we discuss this over drinks bud.

[–] yoriaiko@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hey, I don't bite (if not asked)

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] yoriaiko@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ouch... are we talking about internet, virtual chomp or actual irl chomp? (kinda scared of answer to that, but trying to be silly brave).

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Virtual chomp! We (probably) don’t know each other irl

[–] yoriaiko@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

CHOMP CHOMP CHOMP...

munch munch munch...

crispy :D

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 2 points 22 hours ago

I’m so tasty :3

[–] Cano@lemm.ee 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Nah sorry, stealing my hoodie is a dealbreaker for me

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Why not steal their hoodies too? Then everyone is happy.

My boyfriend often steals my hoodies and I also steal his. It's great.

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

They only steal them cuz they smell like you! 🥰

[–] Cano@lemm.ee 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Then just smell me and get your hands off my hoodie 😡

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago

What if you wore our hoodies, so then they smell like you?