Wow... The stupidity of some people is unreal. Don't listen to them and don't punish yourself for what random people on the internet says.
It reminds me of this reddit post
this post was submitted on 19 Apr 2025
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Oh god, that's gold.
Don't let some asshole ruin more than your day. Don't let them take more away from you. Treat yourself to some real self care - something you'll thank yourself for in the morning.
Shoot me a DM if you want to talk.
How long have you been sober btw? I'm on year 2 myself - the longest ever for me. It started out as a simple break, but now I'm thinking I'm done for good. Not that I don't still think of it from time to time.
I was about two and a half years until I decided to drink again about 12 hours ago. I think I drank about 2 and a half glasses of Vodka before puking, it was terrible. I still feel like shit for breaking sobriety and also because drinking made me feel like shit. I used to drink way more than this before, to the point it was scary and I almost died several times, I vividly remember waking up once in the hospital with a policeman there because he found me unconscious in the gutter, I probably would be dead if he hadn't.
Damn zir that sucks for sure, but imo it's good you feel bad about it and not like so elated and delusional that you want to keep going looking for a new rock bottom. Mine was kind of similar (EMTs), although I didn't really fully come out of it. Woke up with these sticky things on me I guess to check my vital signs. I still keep one of them in my wallet as a, I dunno, kind of a reminder of one of my rock bottoms.
Here's a blog post by a cool person that I've found insightful and heartening, on the topic of sobriety. It's not like my own experience, or probably your own, but reading it gets me out of my own head and makes me look at the struggle from another perspective.
Anyway, I hope you feel better soon. Get yourself plenty of rest of electrolytes! And the DM offer is always open of course.
I'm currently resting and trying to recover. I still have a bad headache and my throat burns like fire. Thank you I'll definitely give that blog a read.
Adding to this: do not punish yourself, for something a random person did to you! You are worthy of your sobriety, do not allow any idiot to take it away from you. Best wishes!
I saw those too, i'm sorry. I removed them as fast as i can, and i reported it to every single other admin.
If you see another one, report it. I see all your reports
This is leadership. Thank you so much.
😊 I try my best.
I saw that series of posts, that user spammed multiple communities with the same post where all of their 'evidence' was just a screenshot of your profile and the fact that your profile pic is AI generated. Thankfully no one seemed to be taking the bait and it was clear to see from a mile away that this user was somehow deeply wounded by something that you said or did and lashing out with bullshit.
Sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately there are some pieces of shit around here, even though in general this place seems pretty progressive and welcoming. Hope that doesn't chase you away from here.
That really is terrible and I'm so sorry that happened but try and stay strong! You made it this far and you are worth it! Try and talk to a sponsor or call a help line first because I know it's hard but you can make it one more day at a time. We are here for you.
Hey, I am sorry that this happened to you! That’s absolutely awful and disgusting behaviour. Fact is, this person doesn’t know anything about you and the way they act is a reflection of themselves, not you. You are valid.
Sending love and huuuugs 🩷
Yeah, I saw them reposting the same thing everywhere earlier. Obvioudly they're just butthurt. Block and ignore it. Nobody cares.
That's fucked l, what an asshole
You are loved and seen and respected! Don't let assholes get to you. If you have people in your life who you trust, I would recommend interacting with them to center yourself.
... and if you don't have those people, there are some great folks here on lemmy. Please let us circle the wagons around you when you need us to.
Sometimes you need a drink, and that's okay. I consider myself "sober" but don't and haven't ever abstained entirely. I don't want it to have that power over me honestly.
I'm sorry that happened though OP, you shouldn't ever feel like you have to prove your transness to anyone!
I'm happy if you have a healthy relationship with alcohol. Some people can handle a drink, and let that be that. But some of us don't have that ability. It's like saying "I'll just do one point of meth" it's not going to be just the one. Eventually it'll be so much that you can ruin your health, friendships, careers, etc.
I just worry that if I start drinking again I'll begin spiraling like I did before, it was scary. I once woke up in the hospital with a police officer next to me who told me he found me face down in the gutter on the side of the road and almost thought I was dead. If he hadn't found me that night I might've been.
I don't really have the tolerance I used to anymore it seems since I ended up throwing up a lot when I tried drinking some of my old vodka. I don't know how many shots it was since I used a full glass but I didn't even get through two and a half glasses before throwing up.
Sorry :c
People suck, sorry you had to go through that. hope you feel better soon