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If you truly love your partner, does a ring and a ceremony really do anything?

I know there are certain legal situations where an official marriage changes who has certain rights, but aren't those same rights available if you make other legally-official decisions E.G. a will or trusts, etc?

I'm generally curious why people get married beyond the "because I love them" when it costs so much money.

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[–] Ziggurat@jlai.lu 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Depends a lot on your personal situation, and jurisdiction.

  • Doing a ceremony when you publicly say you love each other is already a valid reason

  • In some jurisdiction, you'd get a form of tax benefit for being married, it often comes with downside like having welfare benefit based on the couple revenue rather than on individual ones (hence the tax benefit). Talk with an accountant/Tax-lawyer knowing your local laws for details

  • It gives a legal status to your shared asset. Sure you could create a real-estate-investment company to buy your house and many people do that but being married, with a proper prenup give you a lot of agency regarding your shared asset

  • It protects the weaker partner, usually the one scarifying their carrer for the couple if things goes wrong

  • No need for a big ceremony, you can get a notary to prepare the pre-nup contract, and do a ceremony at the townhall with 2 witnesses and done.

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I follow most of these points but I'm not sure I understand point 4?

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[–] troed@fedia.io 2 points 1 day ago

Are you perhaps asking from a US perspective? Or maybe Indian too. I don't know of any other countries where marriage is expensive really.

We got married in Vegas as a fun thing to do, since we're Swedish. Legally the difference is extremely small between being "sambo" (co-living) and being married, and we could just as well kept going without getting married.

It's the symbolism

I want to show the world that I love my woman, and I'll do it in every way that I can

[–] Kommeavsted@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (3 children)

Socially it's an excuse to party with everyone you love.

Legally it's only worth it if you have kids, plan to migrate countries, or have shitty immediate family among other things. But if you're just in a long term relationship with your finances otherwise separated, no kids or end of life concerns, ~~then it can be somewhat detrimental as you're just inviting the state in to meddle with your life.~~ it's just a formal interaction with the state.

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[–] Evotech@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

L in addition to protecting your land from invaders It’s very important when it comes to having kids. If you are married it’s easy

[–] blindbunny@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago

Idk I hate it though my former bestfriend thinks of me as nothing more then a line item in her check book and I have to pay for her poor decisions.

[–] deadcatbounce@reddthat.com -1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

As a male, none.

Have been helping people in family court for twenty years. The shift had been catastrophic for marriage from a male risk/reward.

[–] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world -1 points 1 day ago (3 children)

It doesn't HAVE to cost so much. The wedding doesn't cost a lot.

The ceremony and the party are what cost a lot.

But you can go down to city hall, in plain clothes, pay a small fine, fill out some paperwork, bada bing bada boom, married.

But good luck getting 99% of women to give up their dream wedding for a city hall wedding with 1 city appointed witness, and no guests.

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