WomensStuff

Since not getting married or reproducing have both been mentioned quite a bit (and are for sure my top two as well), I’ll go a bit further down the line.

I’m really glad I stopped wearing makeup at 15., and never started again. I’m just shy of 40 now and on the rare occasion I do wear something, for a wedding or something, everyone gushes about how nice it looks and that feels good, but I am thrilled I don’t waste my time or money on it every day. My skin looks 10 years younger, and I’m not financially contributing to marketing campaigns that make people self-conscious about their appearance.

(If makeup is your jam that’s cool, zero judgement, I’m just very lazy and don’t care how I look enough to spend money and time on it)

Im glad that I was rejected by my community, I wouldn't want to be accepted among awful bigots and transphobes.

I've been with my husband for a long time - it'll be 25 years this September. We only got married 3 years ago, and it was because I needed to go on his health insurance so I could retire. We were both happy with not being married, and also both fine with tying the knot once we saw an actual reason to do it. We didn't have a wedding, we just self-united (something you can do in Pennsylvania thanks to Quaker tradition) and filed the paperwork with the state. We don't wear rings and I kept my name. Literally nothing changed other than my health insurance.

Until we got married, a lot of people seemed really unable to understand why I didn't care about getting married. In the beginning there was a lot of external pressure/expectation on us to get married, which did die off after a while. I'm really glad that we did it on our own terms when it made sense to us, rather than caving to societal expectations.

Not having children. It's a relief. The thought of having to take care of a small extremely vulnerable being, and form it into a good member of society? Fuck that. Also it's going to DIE someday and that would be my fault bringing it into an entropic universe.

No thanks.

Marriage. Procreation.

That's two.

Where I live, women are expected to take on all or most of the domestic duties and childcare despite also working full time. While I don’t mind doing these things, I am vehemently opposed to being defaulted to them just because I happened to be born without a penis. I don’t see a value in living with another person if I’m going to be doing everything by myself anyway.

For me it's having kids. I never wanted them and people kept saying I'd change my mind, needed to meet the right person, my feelings would change if I had one etc. I always flat out refused and would point blank tell people this. I've never had kids, and I'm nearly menopausal and single so definitely won't. And I'm 1000000% happy I don't!

I love my freedom, children and parenting isn't my cup of tea and I've really done what's right for me.

All of them, basically