so I (22m) am a gay (possibly bi?) trans man. after a while of questioning my gender and being gender-fluid, I decided I was still gender-fluid but primarily transmasc/male.
at 17, I didn't really talk to my crush, but I really liked this dude Alex. I was a senior, and i graduated not really talking to him.
by the time i was 19(f), I contacted him again as I met him through a friend. i didn't tell him I liked him. besides, I liked someone else by then.
alex had a girlfriend already anyway.
he broke up with her about a year and a half ago, and while I started to catch feelings for him, I decided to give him some space. after about 6 months, he asked me out and I said yes.
now, some things put me off, like how Alex still identifies (identified?) as straight despite me now being male. he's working on it, though.
he showed a lack of interest in my hobbies but expected me to play games like Fortnite with him even when I told him I didn't like it.
we both like Minecraft, but he doesn't have time to play that, he says, and I respect that.
he expected me to look at his tiktoks and instagram reels but would say "I'll do it later" when I sent him some of mine.
but he's getting better.
he used to be a bit hurtful and dry when he was stressed, sometimes he would blame me for things or would just be plain dry. but we took a break, so that's good.
he also once said that straight people are "normal" and gay people are less normal but still "better" than lesbians, who are "boring". he is still coming to terms with liking me, a trans guy who recently came out as primarily masc. he apologized for the way he said it, though.
plus, even though I was hurt, we sometimes get stressed or depressed and hurt even the ones we love. I'm glad we could work things out. know that if you're going through similar stuff, you can work things out too if it's meant to be <3