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Read a journal article with coffee in the morning
It's still up for debate about "positive", however, I changed my wake up time from 0444 until 0501. I had been arriving at work early. I'm slow to realize there's zero reason for me to be early, since my partner is always a little late.
Walking. Daily. That, and purchasing good shoes. It changed my life.
At first, I was in such a poor shape (physical and mental) I was barely able to walk more than a few steps, I was also severely ill and was expected to die quickly in not the most tranquil manner. Nowadays, I'm not dead :p, and I walk miles every day and I will do my best to go everywhere I can, walking. I'm still ill (it's not curable) but it's stabilized and I feel so much better.
I'm still not an athlete and I'm old enough to realize I'll never be one but I don't care: I'm in such a better shape! Both physically and mentally (I feel so much better in my head), my endurance is skyrocketing, and I've also lost so much weight I don't need to wear 'plus-sized' clothes anymore.
And it all started by making the first step, one small step. Literally ;)
Edit: clarifications.
It's a small thing, but I'd been feeling kinda gross about myself lately, and I started setting aside some time to just wear some cute lingerie around the house for no real reason once a week. My husband has started commenting unprompted how much he's looking forward to "Sexy Sunday" and I kinda love it.
Choosing to be happy is the most important thing you can do in life. Good for you, and lucky husband.
Same! Got a wicked pair of boots and a new vest from the thrift yesterday. Cut my hair in the mirror, got decked out and my wife's eye popped. Even my 12-yo was looking at me, uh, funny. Don't think she knew daddy could dress like that! (She lives with her mom far away. Mostly sees me dressed up in "hiking with a shotgun" chic, not "metrosexual" chic.)
Anyway, I dress up for silly things just because it makes me feel good. Hell, I'll use any excuse to wear one of my tuxes.
Off to see Superman in that same outfit!
I gave up eating meat, because I think animals are gross and annoying. Did wonders for my health and weight. I'm still a miserable bastard though.
I went vegetarian 13 years ago. I lost a little weight in the beginning, then immediately gained it all back once I figured out what I liked. If being vegetarian makes you healthier, that's a skill issue, considering pizza and ice cream can be vegetarian.
Seriously, though, congrats.
I randomly went full vegan after eating a Costco frozen lasagna one night. At the time I was drinking heavily, eating very poorly and pretty stressed out but something about the nasty beef crumbles getting stuck between my teeth set me off.
It’s been nearly six years and I wouldn’t go back to eating meat for the world. I wasn’t really an animal person but after marrying my wife and becoming very attached to her two chihuahuas my heart breaks that people can’t be bothered to stop eating meat. Animals are innocent and what we do to them isn’t right.
New rule: only 1 "in progress" item and 1 "in repair" item is allowed on the hobby pile.
Turns out I actually have a LOT of things to do, and now I actually do it too.
The thought of this terrifies me. I should do it.
Learned Japanese on a whim so I could watch anime without subtitles. Now by complete coincidence I'm in Japan and not banging my head against the nearly insurmountable language barrier (Japanese people are really bad at English).
I decided to start learning French last year and have been essentially speed running it. Learning another language makes my brain happy (I'm fluent in 2 already).
What's your language-learning method?
Immersion. Duolingo (blegh) is useful for structured grammar learning, but I'm gaining a lot through music, podcasts, and switching some apps to French. Recently started translating comic books since they're relatively simple but fun. For the specific dialect I want to learn, I'm getting help from my friend and I found a French club through my job.
As much as I hate Duolingo's recent politics, their podcast is one of the most useful. It's essentially bilingual Radiolab. At least I know that doesn't have AI.
Jesus, you're committed! Thanks for the tips.
Reading more, finally knocking down that bedside stack of books.
Excellent decision :)
I'm hoping desperately to do this in the winter.
Feeding pigeons first thing in the morning. I have a reason to get out of bed and something to look forward to every day.
It's funny how we will do for others what we don't do for ourselves. My sons sobriety began with a cat.
I stopped adding sugar to my coffee at work. Took some getting used to, but it's less hassle overall, and less sugar intake.
I started a few years ago but locksmithing and lock sport has helped me deal with most of my father figures dieing in the last 5 or 6 years.
Walking regularly, reducing carbs intake, reducing alcohol intake.
I don't have to be radical, it helps even when I sometimes go overboard on eating or drinking.
It also keeps my head leveled. Plus I get to listen to a lot of podcasts.
Started intermittent fasting for no real reason. I no longer wake up hungry and the urge for a midnight snack is completely gone.
No reading in bed, no phone in bed, just go and go to sleep. Also make my bed in the morning.
I expected it to have some kind of debatable impact after a while, but my insomnia cleared up instantly. Like within a couple of days.
I started taking magnesium. Instantly the majority of my mental health issues evaporated but they come back if I go for more than about 3 days without it.
I tried magnesium and didn't notice a difference. However I got my blood work done recently and found out I was low on B12. Started taking a B complex and it's made a huge difference in energy levels.
It's all about figuring out what your body's missing :)
Exactly. Meanwhile B12 screws my stuff right up.
Started a garden and have stuck with it enough the garden is producing tomatoes (still green currently though)
I wouldn't say really positive. But it changed a daily slightly negative into a daily slightly positive.
At work I regularly need to take short notes. I like to fill the page to the full. But it gets messier and more complicated aa the day goes on. So I'd strike through and cross out notes I don't need anymore.
The thing is, crossing things out triggers a feeling of making mistakes. So instead of crossing out I started using check-marks (Dutch-style)., which feels like a succes and is also a quick fun flourish to draw. So small annoyances have turned into small victories.