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Anyone got anything they wanna talk about? (piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone)

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[–] CoffeeTails@lemmy.world 18 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I'm so so tired of not having a job. In 11 years since finishing school I feel like I've tried everything multiple times. Summer jobs, studying, visiting companies, calling companies, idk how many times I've rewritten my resume trying different layouts etc. one time I even drew an image to have on my resume. it was cringe af. "you have to stick out"

I'M DESPERATE FOR A JOB.

But I'm autistic, I can't do whatever because of sensory issues (mostly sounds, like the checkout area in grocery stores) and I happen to feel really really uncomfortable to work with people, like homes for elderly or so. I simply feel way to unsure on the social interactions. When is it ok to push their consent? How much can I push it? Why? When? What? I also tend to laugh or giggle when I'm nervous, not a good trait in that field. oh yeah, I'm also slow and not very good with stress, it makes me slower, ironic huh?

I have considered personal assistance, if I get to work with the "right" person. But what are the odds for that?

And next month new rules and regulations will start regarding being jobless, less money, stricter rules and I'm so freaking stressed I don't know what to do. I'm seeing a psychiatrist on Tuesday, I hope they're a decent person with decent ideas.

I'm just so tired.

I just want a job so I can start living and not just surviving.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

If I succeed in starting a business, I will keep you in mind.

[–] AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

Feel free to DM me about starting a business in the US. I don't know the international laws and licences you'll need, but in the US I have a wide range of experience running my own businesses. So far I have consistently failed to drive myself into bankruptcy.

[–] CoffeeTails@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

Thank you! Exiting to start a business, I hope you succeed and truly enjoy it!

[–] fakir@piefed.social 3 points 1 month ago

If you need help in starting or running a business, feel free to message me.

[–] Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I’m sure there are types of jobs that can work for you out there. There are just so many hidden jobs, mostly stuff you find out about when you network with people. That’s how I found most of the jobs I have had over the years, just talking with people.

[–] CoffeeTails@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I've never been very good at networking, but I try!

I live in Sweden and the Swedish job market is fked up right now. There is a weird mismatch, we have around 9% unemploymend, even university-gratuates struggle to get a job. If you're 40 or older, youre too old (I'm ~30).

Recruters are trying to find their perfect match by posting jobs again and again even tho they have already found good candidates. But not good enought apparently.

Also, the politicians have decided to pressure us unemployed as if we are lazy so we will get lower income from next month and people already struggle A LOT to survive. We also have weirder rules to follow, eg. we HAVE to apply 3 jobs that are more than 3h aways even if there ar plenty of jobs closer.

We also have to apply to 3 jobs we don't have the skills for. At the same time, companies are requested to report appicants that they deem unserious. THAT sounds like a trap.

The safety net is breaking and it's breaking FAST.

(whelp, I could write a blog-post about this. Maybe I should)

[–] Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Lots of places use AI to sort job applications and also lots of places say they are hiring but never do.

Hopefully you can keep trying and land something good you enjoy doing.

[–] CoffeeTails@lemmy.world 3 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I hate how they use AI but doesn't give feedback on how well the AI is reading my resume. I've heard some struggle with tables (like if you add a sidebar) for example. I've also heard there are some that don't read PDFs, which is just stupid and some looks for a file with "resume" in the name even tho we don't really use that word in Sweden, instead we use "CV".

It's a shitshow.

Thank you, I'm seeing a psychiatrist next week, I hope to get some help from her on how to keep my head up.

[–] Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 1 points 4 weeks ago

Hope that helps, and hopefully you stumble onto a job, sometimes it just happens.

[–] original_reader@lemmy.zip 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I agree.

Also, listening to me and hearing me is not the same.

[–] TerranFenrir@lemmy.ca 9 points 1 month ago

I listen you

[–] foggy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I see that.

[–] Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Trying to come to terms with my employment of 10 years probably ending soon. Fell totally out of love with the field (IT) and looking for a complete career change. Problem is, I only have a useless journalism degree.

[–] TAG@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Your journalism degree makes you a more well rounded person. Also, there is an overlap between journalism and IT: tech news, tech blogging, tech review, etc.

Have you given any thought about what your next steps will be?

[–] Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I'm thinking of going into teaching since there's a shortage of teachers in my area. Gotta check up on the available courses and trainings. Apart from that I have a myriad of ideas/projects that never quite seem to take form except in my head. If I had the time and focus I might finally be able to get something done there as well.

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

New muscle relaxer is helping substantially so far. Hope is toxically dangerous for me, but I have returned to my daily physical routine that has been broken and disintegrating over the last 2 years. In 3 weeks I have missed 2 days. It could be an anomalous high point still, but who knows maybe it sticks.

[–] CoffeeTails@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago

Hey, you are doing great, even if it's an anomalous high point, you are going in the right direction!

[–] rhombus@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago

Even if it is an anomalous high point, it’s still a high point! Remember to let yourself live in the good moments and enjoy them, not because they may not last, but because you deserve them. I’m glad that you’re doing better :)

[–] savvywolf@pawb.social 10 points 1 month ago

Coming to terms with the fact that all the hyperconsevative puritanical bullshit happening nowadays is having an affect on me. I feel guilty for enjoying things and the cop in my head is saying I shouldn't be doing them.