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So weird situation. I'm a contractor that does work at a lot of commercial kitchens. A few days ago I was repairing a piece of equipment at a local resturant where I work fairly often and one of the new employees there called me out by name and said she recognized me from somewhere but couldn't remember where. I didn't recognize her at all. We chatted for a bit while I was working and neither one of us could figure out how she recognized me. I was back a day later to replace a part on something and she said she still couldn't figure it out and of course I still had no clue.

Well, earlier today it suddenly dawned on me. We matched on tinder like 5 years ago. Back then we chatted for a couple weeks but it never really went anywhere beyond casual chatting. I kind of get the feeling that neither of us was in a great head space at the time so things just dropped off.

Well, I'm going back there on Tuesday to finish up the repair. Should I tell her why she recognizes me or would that be inapropriate considering we are both working? The last thing I want is to make someone feel uncomfortable and trapped.

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[–] TallonMetroid@lemmy.world 53 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Just wait until after you finish the repair job. Finalize all the paperwork or whatever, then furrow your brows a bit, snap your fingers and go aha. If all you're concerned about is not leaving her wondering, that's should be fine, especially since you'd be leaving right after, so no pressure on her or anything.

[–] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Probably the best bet, I don't want to make her even more uncomfortable considering she also just started there.

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 week ago

Good man. If possible also avoid bringing it up when her coworkers are near enough to hear it.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

Yup. Plus, chances are she remembers it, but is curious to see if you remember it too.

[–] bulwark@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago

This, but do your best Columbo impression while doing it.

[–] figjam@midwest.social 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yes. This is like When Harry Met Sally. Good luck

I've never seen it so I'll take your word for it. Also not really trying for anything. I'm mean she's still cute and I'm at least still single so I wouldn't be opossed to chatting more. But there's no way I am going to ask someone out while we're both working.

I honestly just thought it was kind of funny that she couldn't figure out how she knew me and that wound up being the reason.

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This is absolute gold as a first date conversation starter. If you keep it a secret for too long, it’ll be weird, but it’s a funny thing to begin with.

Yeah, that's the thing. I'd be open to a date but I obviously can't try for that while we're both working. I don't plan on keeping it a secret especially if she actually asks again. But the last thing I want is to make it weird.

[–] pastermil@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 week ago

If I were you, I'd just be straightforward and casual about it. Who knows where it'd take you, but don't get your hopes up.

[–] ThrowawayPermanente@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Tell her this on your first date

[–] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Honestly wouldn't be opossed to that but I'm obviously not going to try for it while we're both working. Asking someone out while they're working is a definite no go. Asking them out while they're working, I'm working, and they're my customer sounds like an excelent way to come off as a complete creep plus get fired.

It sounds like you're not her customer or her supervisor so I think you're probably in the clear as long as you're respectful and prepared to take no for an answer. You're asking for her phone number, not prepositioning her. Leave it for the last interaction before you leave so you minimize any discomfort in case she does reject you.

[–] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I don't think it's unreasonable to share, as long as you're able to adequately convey that you don't feel entitled to her time or attention because of it

If nothing else it can be a shared laugh. If it make sense to maybe it makes for a nice date :)

[–] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Oh, yeah. I'm not really expecring anything out of it. Besides there's really no way to set up a date when we're both working. Not that I wouldn't be open to it,I just don't see any way of that happening without one party taking a whole lot of risk.

[–] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

Yeah that makes sense

I hope that, however you decide to go about things, it works out well :)

[–] nightmare786@leminal.space 4 points 1 week ago