Back when I was into MMOs I always made a point to apply to LGBTQ friendly guilds despite being embarrassingly cishet. It just selects for people who are not human garbage.
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Similarly, when I find a new online space/community, I always look for the furries. If furries are present and just allowed to chill without people making fun of them, it's typically going to be a much healthier space than one without furries.
I consider a thriving online furry community as an indication of a healthy online ecosystem. Probably why I've been enjoying Wafrn so much lately. 😸
We are a really friendly guild, a bunch of normal everyday people who dont take the game too seriously. Join our group of amazing and chill people today!
-Oh can i join? im queer btw =)
-Uuhhh unfortunately we just cant guarantee a friendly environment for you soo anyways i wish you good luck finding a guild!!
-Oh.. =(
omg why didn't I think of this?
Yeah, I've been playing Nation States and people inundate with region join things, and the one I picked was like "queer as hell" and went yep!
And it was the right choice
Another region did say they go to war against NJ every Tuesday so I had to decline that one as I'd have to be on NJ's side.
I sought out Beehaw when joining the fediverse for similar reasons before my egg cracked last November and I realized I'm trans. I used to seek out queer spaces for the express purpose of finding a place that's accepting and friendly in general. Now I do it because I myself am queer lol
That’s exactly how I ended up on blahaj. I picked the single queerest option available. Hasn’t steered me wrong yet!
To be fair, the inverse is also true.
If someone is explicitly against trans rights, then they're almost assuredly against the rest too
Maybe in America, but consider
- TERFs
- Liberal conservatives
- Transphobic people left of the radical right
and whatnot. I don't think transphobia is a great benchmark for extremism as long as it's so widespread across the whole political spectrum.
You mean three of the four flavors of the facist/alt right pipeline? The only one you're missing is the 'just asking questions' manosphere dudebros
Yes but by that logic there are there are only three types of people: those who believe people can change their gender, those who haven't decided yet and those who want to mass murder minorities.
I mean, I took the original comment in this thread to mean more like politicians who don't support trans rights probably won't support those things very much, which doesn't seem too untrue. Since the meme is pretty exclusively about politicians and how trans rights are a pretty good litmus test for other issues, and so a politician who is explicitly transphobic is probably shitty about a bunch of other things, while one who's middling on supporting trans rights is also probably middle of the road on supporting those other things too.
yeah I was gonna say just off the top of my head TERFs.
isn't the terf movement at least in the UK allied with a bunch of far right neo nazis? I'm pretty sure they also compromise on their reproductive rights to own trans people
Yeah they're pretty awful people. Turns out you don't have to be the kind of person fascists like to be one yourself.
"first they came for the socialists" and all, yes.
I mean, yeah, that’s pretty much all voting.
Elected officials never actually get to weigh in on like “Trans people: fully considered as their chosen gender, Y/N?”
It’s always like “Should we renew the provision that the dept of education is able to recommend limiting student aid funding for teachers’ aide programs that prohibit student teachers from stating, on school grounds, that they have family members who have donated to 501(c)(4)s that have lobbied against bathroom bills, and also fund repairs for the orphan-crushing machine and the last $5 we need to cure wrist cancer forever?”
You always have to reverse-engineer a politician’s philosophy, cuz you can never predict exactly what byzantine nonsense they’ll face in the actual role.
They say it so cumbersomely because they know the alternative of saying "Should we gas trans people?" would deter voters from voting on them.
The real agenda of billionnaire oligarchs, and their fascist allies, ultimately, is complete control.
Its far from perfect but sites like theyvoteforyou.org.au help a lot. Not sure what the US & EU equivalents are.
“Usually” doing a lot of the heavy lifting in that sentiment.
Which politician supports trans rights but opposes reproductive rights? I can’t think of any.
None in the US, but there are some in Iran iirc
I wouldn’t say Iran supports trans rights so much as it uses SRS to punish queer people, but I get what you mean
Obviously I would say that "trans rights" include gay rights and the right to be gender nonconforming since I'm a bisexual enby. But approving of srs for straight trans people is more "pro trans" than the current US republican party, while still not being someone I'd support. So it does demonstrate how we aren't single issue voters.
I'm not sure if I should bring this up but recently someone in my family has been dealing with menopause and they've been kinda nebulous on certain topics regarding transfolk, not necessarily anti but watching hours of 60 Minutes Australia will curd anyones mind. As the topic of needing to focus on hormone therapy has been coming up here and there, it's become a bit easier for them to understand that trans rights are synonymous with womens rights cuz who else is seeking Estrogen?
It selects for politicians who care about fundamental rights and decency for a minority even when it is not politically convenient. It is a great litmus test for that right now. You will see the cowards and opportunists who have no place in politics like Keir Starmer who turn from trans rights the second it's convenient. That is an indigtment of their character not just their stance on trans people. They care only about their bottom line.
Inb4 a random pro-choice, trans rights advocate makes a law banning gay marriage.
Ok, yes, but if both candidates are going to say no anyway then you shouldnt just not vote. You are just as bad as the people who say "this doesn't affect me so I'm not going to do anything."
Have some empathy for your community and their other issues. Don't expect people to care about you if you don't care about others. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
It goes without saying that I am not necessarily talking about you and I am not making a statement about the community. I am speaking against this abomination of a post that is trying to justify single issue voting by saying they are voting for things that are actually tightly coupled.
Could you give an example of a politician outside Iran who supports trans rights but opposes reproductive healthcare?
Who said anything about not voting? You are making up arguments that the post isn’t making.
which human rights are you willing to sacrifice so the trans community can survive this genocide? no more of this nonsense
In the same vein though, it's a lot easier to say "vote for the lesser evil" when you aren't being directly impacted by that issue. Even if being middle of the road on something like trans rights is better than outright hate, that still doesnt change that like 15+ states are trying to effectively ban trans people from existing in public by preventing us from using a bathroom without risking either arrest or assault, that in the majority of states trans minors can't access the care they need, and that an increasing amount of the US is just not a place we could really even visit, let alone safely live in. Sure, if that's true regardless then technically a vote that helps other people is better, but also trying to shame people for not voting in the face of that, rather than the politicians who are happily standing by while these issues get worse and worse to try and hold the votes of those communities hostage, is definitely blaming the wrong people.
And just like this post says, someone being middling on trans issues is also probably very middling on everything else, so really that argument also gets a lot weaker anyway. Plus, even if there existed a theoretical politician who was trying to bring back race segregation while also being a staunch supporter of trans rights for some reason, I still wouldn't vote for them and I definitely wouldn't blame anyone for not wanting to support them.
I say all this as someone who did vote for Harris in the last election, and who is active in mutual aid and activism groups in my area. Personally, I do consider voting to function as harm reduction in some cases, and I care about the issues impacting other marginalized communities plenty. (Also in general people who are a member of at least one marginalized group tend to be much more empathetic to other groups and their issues compared to people who aren't). But I'll never blame someone for not voting, whether its because they feel like voting legitimazes a rigged system, that the only options both totally suck and will result in their rights being stripped away regardless, that both options suck for a different marginalized group and they can't justify support for that issue, they just feel unrepresented or like nothing will really change, or whatever. The blame for those people not voting is entirely in the hands of our government, political system, and the parties/candidates themselves.
If anything, I think the people who always vote for the lesser evil could be argued to be more at fault than the people who don't show up. If someone knows they'll have your vote regardless of their positions, as long as they arent quite as bad as the other party, why actually make things better? Making them worse is certainly more lucrative. That said, I definitely don't think blaming individuals for the bad things a politician does is either fair or productive, and there's a lot more everyone can and should do if they're able to that isn't voting, so spending time arguing about voting for the lesser evil or not isn't worth it (I say, writing an essay-length comment about voting in response lol).
(Also sorry for the massive wall of text, I just kinda kept writing once I started haha)
That is literally not what "single issue" means.
Don't expect people to care about you if you don't care about others.
I can see the Democratic Party's ambivalence turning sour. They have demonstrated not caring about us and yet we are expected to support them?
I tend to vote in the interests of people less fortunate than me.
It's not hard to have an ounce of empathy or sympathy.