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[–] kat_angstrom@lemmy.world 79 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Companies are made by extroverts, for extroverts, and as extroverts they have no consideration or realization that anyone might have any feelings different from them.

[–] toofpic@lemmy.world 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

As an extravert, I'd tell them to get the fuck out of my private life. If ignored, I would sabotage the event by sharing something like me puking at a party, or playing Stardew Valley on a toilet.

[–] kat_angstrom@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago

That's fair; I'm generalizing and certainly not all Extro's will fit into that box. Lots of corpo mgmt folks certainly do though.

[–] okwhateverdude@lemmy.world 61 points 1 week ago (1 children)

"I'm a private person and don't feel comfortable sharing. Thanks for the invite, but I'll be turning this meeting down. Feel free to reach out if you have any work related discussions in which my opinion would be valuable. I have lots of ideas for improvement for cross-department collaboration that I would be willing share."

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 7 points 1 week ago
[–] rustydrd@sh.itjust.works 57 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

This is my cat while sleeping. This is my cat while awake. I travelled to work this morning and would like to travel back home now, because that would allow me to escape this stupid fucking situation.

[–] xxce2AAb@feddit.dk 53 points 1 week ago (1 children)

"That's not part of my work-related responsibilities as defined by my contract."

[–] Nougat@fedia.io 18 points 1 week ago

lol contract, what do you think this is, civilization?

[–] ironhydroxide@sh.itjust.works 48 points 1 week ago

First picture is a picture of this request. Second picture is a picture of this request.

A place you have traveled to is work. And it sucks.

A place you want to travel to it's home, and that's nonya business.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 24 points 1 week ago

So here I am in the sexclub being gangbanged this past Saturday an.... Hello? Hey, why did my connection drop?

Hello?

[–] Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 22 points 1 week ago (3 children)

That's horrific. Can you download a picture of something boring to everyone but you could talk about at length? Depending on who of my coworkers did this, I could talk at length about Lego, trains, plaster repair, my dog and the things she eats (sometimes twice!)

[–] toofpic@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

Best techniques of collecting shit after your dog: pros and cons, schematics, then a live demo

[–] Jesus_666@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I would take a screenshot of the invite and deliver a ten minute lecture on how this meeting is keeping me from actually doing my job.

Second picture is a screenshot of my team's backlog.

Locations don't matter; they'll throw me out of the meeting at the second picture at the latest.

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[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 19 points 1 week ago (2 children)

so please make every effort to attend

Is this corp speech for "obligatory"?

[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm reading it as, "You don't technically have to attend, but we'll remember who wasn't there when it's time for performance reviews."

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 10 points 1 week ago

Yikes, that workplace sucks.

[–] Lexam@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

That's actually Corp speak for it's not completely obligatory. I have meetings where it's if you can attend you need to be in it. And then I have meetings where it doesn't matter what you are doing you have to be in that meeting barring an emergency.

[–] TallonMetroid@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago

This isn't explicitly mandatory, so just don't attend. You're not being paid to socialize, after all.

[–] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 17 points 1 week ago

I think this violates the Geneva convention

[–] ThePantser@sh.itjust.works 17 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

1st picture: My Junk

2nd picture: My Asshole

Where have I gone? Downtown on yo momma.

Where do I want to go? Yo mommas backdoor.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

HR hates this one weird trick!

[–] StopSpazzing@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Make shit up. No joke. Only way to survive this shit is to have fun with it and make up the most ludicrous bullshit. Or dont attend if its not required. Tell your coworkers the same. Or say you are busy as you have to actually work.

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[–] magic_lobster_party@fedia.io 15 points 1 week ago

I hate these forced ice breaker topics. Nothing makes me more nervous and sweaty. It doesn’t work either.

[–] cornshark@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago (12 children)

As an NT, could you help me understand your feelings towards this event? I would really enjoy learning more about my coworkers and what is meaningful to them. It sounds like it would reinforce team bonds and help me understand my coworkers beyond their just their superficial work layer. I'm sure they have fun interests and experiences to share which we might even have in common and nerd out about, or grow into a new interest for me that could enrich my life.

[–] JandroDelSol@lemmy.world 31 points 1 week ago

autistic person here! if I want to socialize, I will do so on my own terms. forced socialization does not make me bond, it makes me stressed, especially when I have work that needs doing

[–] Arcanepotato@crazypeople.online 30 points 1 week ago

My lived experience in three memes:

It's a different type of social dance we have to do that is not part of my normal daily script and that I am not prepared for and now have to agonize over, I don't know anything about myself, a fun fact is never a single sentence how dare you???

[–] leverage@lemdro.id 23 points 1 week ago (5 children)

With rare exception, team bonds at big companies are superficial and these forced social situations aren't going to produce deep bonds.

More to the point, I have work I actually want to do, and shit like this isn't going to get it done any faster. Nothing you learn about my dog, kids, the weather, etc is going to make work faster, on the contrary the absolute best case is that we'll spend more time catching up about non-work shit.

If management has time to think this stuff is a good idea, they aren't good managers, especially if they manage anyone that has no interest in these things.

Feels relevant somehow, consider listening to act one of https://www.thisamericanlife.org/796/what-lies-beneath

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 14 points 1 week ago

With rare exception, team bonds at big companies are superficial and these forced social situations aren’t going to produce deep bonds.

This is the main problem, imo. Nobody there is actually paying attention, most will just mention the most immediate thing that comes to mind to get it over quickly.

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[–] Lexam@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago

Let's call it being shy (that's not what it is.) We generally don't like to share personal things unless we trust you. So doing this in front of a group of people almost feels like stage fright but worse. Think of being in front of a group of people that despite rationally knowing they are not hostile to you, the little squirrel in the back of your brain is convinced they are.

This can stem from several things such as generalized anxiety, to being judged previously for our interest. Many of us have interests that are out of the main stream, may be a niche interest specializing in a specific thing, or something that others consider childish.

[–] Fizz@lemmy.nz 18 points 1 week ago (2 children)

NT: I have no interest in my co workers beyond work and dont want them to know about my life outside of work.

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[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 17 points 1 week ago

Sometimes as people who may have been bullied before, there is a lack of trust at times

[–] Soggy@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago

Also NT but an introvert: I don't want my co-workers to understand more than the superficial layer I project. It's fucking exhausting to exist socially all the time but hiding behind a facade helps.

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 14 points 1 week ago

Even most NT introverts would find this exhausting at best.

[–] DesertCreosote@piefed.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

If I want to share with you, I will. Usually this will happen naturally if we’ve worked together for a while and I like you. I’ll start mentioning some of my interests, and depending on how you respond I’ll mention other interests or experiences.

I have been invited to events like this before, and I have managed to avoid them through rescheduling calls with vendors so I have an excuse not to attend, coming up with critical things that could not wait so I’d be able to skip, and by just flat-out taking a sick day. I do not want to be forced to share my personal life with my coworkers.

If you make me share in front of a group, I will spend the entire allotted time talking about something incredibly trivial that applies to everyone.

For an example of how this works when I can’t avoid it, my manager recently started asking how we’re all feeling on a scale of 1-10 during some team meetings. If you give a low response, he’ll start quizzing you in front of the entire team as to why you’re not feeling better. If you answer too high, he’ll ask about why you’re feeling so happy. My response in all of the meetings has been 8, no matter how I’m feeling, because that’s average and there’s no follow up. It’s none of his business how I’m feeling; if I want to share with him and the others, I will choose to do that on my own and not in a group situation.

I am friendly with my coworkers, but I am not friends with them (with a couple exceptions for people I’ve been working with for almost a decade, and even then they’re not in my inner circle).

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[–] renrenPDX@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

This only works with the same select few people who speak up or share things in every call. They’re typically very outspoken, willing to go to after work, work related gatherings and such. That’s fine.

No thank you. I value work life balance very much and this violates it. I keep my personal life separate, unless I want to share. I’m very good at what I do and value my ability to do so. The people I need to get along with, I already do. These kind of details get shared organically and should not be forced.

I also do not come from a healthy family background to put it softly. When these positive sounding ideas to share come up, I come up blank, because I do not have them to share.

So go on and talk about your happy vacation to Disneyworld for the nth time, or your trip to Istanbul, or your huge extended family and their third grandchild. Talk about your hobbies and your farm animals. Don’t force me to enroll into playing games over Teams meetings. It’s fine for you to share or participate as long as you want to. I’m happy for you. Just don’t make me have to make shit up on the spot. I’m not creative that way.

If you want to know more about me, then show me that you are a good worker that I’ll get along with. Become someone I might speak positively about. Then I may offer a part of me that’s outside work. These forced team building techniques don’t work. They never have other than build resentment.

This makes me sound quite bitter but I’m just a chill guy that values privacy.

[–] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Try walking through a field full of land mines blindfolded and you will understand

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[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 12 points 1 week ago

The cult around constantly being touring, or planning your next trip, that I've seen at every company where people earn ok money is such a bother.

I feel for people who have friends in other countries, but all this flying around ugh, and then talking about it ugh ugh

[–] superduperpirate@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

Sounds like a good time to have a meeting with an external partner that you can’t skip or reschedule.

And by meeting, I mean a legit looking calendar event that will fool a cursory investigation.

This works best if you have an office with a door you can shut.

Or. Hell. Sounds like a good time to schedule a conflicting dental or doctor appointment.

[–] Strider@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

Yeah I have a question: what the fuck?

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 9 points 1 week ago
  • Hello, my name is I Cast Fist and this first picture is of me playing Doom 2016, right as I chainsaw a mancubus in half. Please refrain from remarking how much our boss looks like this monster. This second picture is the frontpage of NaughtyMachinima, where we can see a large variety of 3D rendered videos, including gangbangs, bestiality and monster sex, because I think it's neat.
  • One place I travelled to is my bathroom, a place I want to travel to is my bedroom and get a full night's sleep.

Now, in all fairness, when people actually want to listen to my ramblings when they want to know me, boy, better sit down because I can talk a lot. My work colleagues recently found out I once appeared as an extra in a few local adverts and quickly made some chat stickers of said scenes 🤣

[–] groucho@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 1 week ago

"Place 1 is my chair at home. It's comfortable and everything I need is within reach. Place 2 is also my chair at home. I hope to travel there soon."

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago

Just make up some wild shit. They won't know.

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago

Jesus Christ no

[–] IpsumLauren@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

they will feed the transcription to AI

[–] Rhaedas@fedia.io 6 points 1 week ago

"You should participate, we're a family here."

"A dysfunctional one."

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