Anon dates a 19 y/o : greentext

[–] QueenHawlSera@sh.itjust.works 33 points 20 hours ago (4 children)

I'm 34 dating a 25 year old myself. Which I checked, it passes the "Half your age plus 7" test

(34 / 2 = 17 + 7 = 24) Sometimes I still feel weird about it though

[–] ethaver@kbin.earth 29 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

@ 30 22 feels waaay too damn young. tf am I even gonna talk to this person about? I'm a decade in to a high stress high reliability industry. I'm starting to get ~~Greg~~ grey hairs! I make jokes about all the child rapists I met while working for the state! Too much happened in that 8 years between us. Too damn much.

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[–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 63 points 22 hours ago (23 children)

When did we as a society give up on the "½ X +7" minimum dating age formula?

[+] Nikls94@lemmy.world -8 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (4 children)

Wow that actually makes sense.

But then again, I’m born 1994, there’s not so many I can actually date. I have like 1990 - 1998 available, and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together: those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts. I’m in limbo where I know all of that but don’t like anything.

Edit: to those who downvoted, why?

[–] antonim@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 18 hours ago

to those who downvoted, why?

Because of this part:

they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together

[–] abysmalpoptart@lemmy.world 28 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (5 children)

Just for a little context, the minimum age being ((your age / 2)+7) is meant to be "this is the minimum age of someone you can date without it being creepy" (i believe it originated from the TV show how i met your mother)

If you were born in 1994 you are either 30 or 31. Let's call it 30 for easy math.

30/2 = 15 15+7=22

So anyone who is 22 or older fits the minimum age concept, which is anyone born in approx 2002/2003 or earlier. If you decided to include that, the extra 4-5 years does increase the dating pool quite a bit.

I'm not telling you who to date, just giving a little context to the math since that's what was brought up in the original comment.

Edit: Lots of folks chiming in with some really good insight about the history of the math. Thank you all for that!

Although the historical accounts seem to be math for the "ideal age" in a (probably female) partner and not "minimum age before it's creepy" as it was presented in HIMYM, it's really interesting to see how that equation has been used for over 100 years!

[–] Denjin@feddit.uk 6 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

No one knows the true origin of the idea but there's a number of examples that predate how I met your mother by over a hundred years.

The first published example is Max O'Rell in Her Royal Highness, Woman: And His Majesty—Cupid from 1901

I heard the other day a very good piece of advice, which I should like to repeat here, as I endorse it thoroughly : A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven. Try it at whatever age you like, and you will find it works very well, taking for granted all the while that, after all, a man as well as a woman is the age that he looks and feels.

[–] abysmalpoptart@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago

Interesting stuff thanks for adding. I added an edit to address. Appreciate you chiming in

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 points 13 hours ago

Interesting, though this sounds like it's not supposed to be the minimum age, but the ideal age.

[–] Waraugh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

It had to be a thing before how I met your mother, I remember it being a thing during school in the 80-90’s

[–] abysmalpoptart@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago

Totally fair, lots of folks have chimed in about it. Really interesting to see it's over 100 years old (although more focused on ideal partner, not avoiding being creepy)

[–] Eyekaytee@aussie.zone 22 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

(i believe it originated from the TV show how i met your mother)

Although the provenance of the rule is unclear, it is sometimes said to have originated in France.[81] The rule appears in John Fox Jr.'s 1903 novel The Little Shepherd of Kingdom Come,[84] in American newspapers in 1931 attributed to Maurice Chevalier,[85] and in The Autobiography of Malcolm X, attributed to Elijah Muhammad.[86]

In many early sources, the rule was primarily presented as a formula to calculate the ideal age of a female partner at the beginning of a heterosexual relationship. Frederick Locker-Lampson's Patchwork from 1879 states the opinion "A wife should be half the age of her husband with seven years added."[87] Max O'Rell's Her Royal Highness Woman from 1901 gives the rule in the format "A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven."[88]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships

[–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 13 points 21 hours ago

See I didn't know that was the origin. I like it better as an outside boundary.

[–] abysmalpoptart@lemmy.world 2 points 20 hours ago

That's really interesting, thanks for sharing!

[–] AlolanYoda@mander.xyz 5 points 18 hours ago

Invert this rule to get the maximum age you can date (defined as the person whose minimum age is your current age):

min age = (your age / 2) + 7 max age = (your age * 2) - 14

If you're 30, then you can reasonably date people between 22 and 46. So the other guy can add even more years before 1990.

[–] zout@fedia.io 4 points 18 hours ago

Also, for the maximum age they are the younger one. So assuming age is 30, substract 7 and multiply the outcome by 2, maximum date age is 46...

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 14 hours ago

The clumsy portmanteau of facebook and derelicts if I had to guess. That one is just dreadful. Go with Facebougoise or something, The Faceborg maybe (I actually like that one), something like that.

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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 16 points 22 hours ago

I actually vibe more with the generations after me than my own; but I would find it creepy myself to be with someone who isn't relatively close to my own age.

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 13 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Anon isn't down skibidi style

[–] CrazyHorse@lemmy.cafe 8 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Getting head while on the toilet?

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 3 points 18 hours ago

He doesn't know

[–] javasux@lemmy.world 8 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

I have not heard someone say "big mood" in years

[–] arin@lemmy.world 3 points 14 hours ago

Anon's girl is already falling behind

[–] JandroDelSol@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago

i say it al the time lol

[–] radiouser@crazypeople.online 4 points 20 hours ago

Big mood!

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 8 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

Nothing ever changes.

Steely Dan - Hey Nineteen

[+] abbadon420@sh.itjust.works -8 points 22 hours ago (3 children)

Maybe OP could date a 9 year old on the side, to fill the age gap. Or is OP not rich enough to pull that of?

[–] Yuki@kutsuya.dev 9 points 18 hours ago

Mate, who hurt you?

[–] RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 2 points 13 hours ago

I never considered that the ages stack

[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 2 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

That will turn OP into OP (Peace be upon him)

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