You seem like management material.
this post was submitted on 19 Sep 2025
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"I've never heard anyone express an option like that out loud before."
"What a unique approach to the problem!"
"I bet you played football in highschool, right?"
"Has anyone ever told you that you'd look good in a uniform?"
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"I hope the rest of your day is as pleasant as you are"
Awe thanks!
The series Ted Lasso is chock full of these, but my favorite was after Jade meets Rupert and he leaves, she says, "Well, he seems rich."
Like it almost sounds like a compliment, but only if you lack the self-awareness and empathy of someone who isn't rich.
You remind me of myself
"You remind me of you when I was your age."
"Wow you look good today."
It may be backhanded or not
I think it's backhanded because it implies that the person doesn't usually look good any other day.
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Oh, your hair is (pause) fine.
"I never thought of it that way."
"That's a new perspective."
"I love your confidence!"
I'm nostalgic of the time when I haven't met you
Why do you need to? Arent there enough assholes already?
I bet you're fun at parties.
Why do you assume that the person advocating to not be an asshole wouldn't be fun at parties?
you poor sweet thing. you might be the brightest crayon in the box but that blunt tip makes it hard to stay in the lines. (I mean this in the most positive way. not all crayons are perfect, and they don't need to be)
I'll spoon feed it to you.
you responded to a post asking for backhanded compliments by outright calling OP an asshole for asking for backhanded compliments and had the audacity to not even provide what OP asked for.
I then took the opportunity to provide a tongue-in-cheek response that was a backhanded compliment and an appropriate response to someone who completely ignored the the whole point of the post.
what you did was akin to walking up to a conversation between people at a party, interjecting when you felt offended by the content that you involved yourself in, and called everyone an asshole.
what an asshole thing to do, right?
I suggest that in the future you save the condescension for the end, not the start, if you want the recipient to actually finish reading your message.
couldn't care less if you read it or not.
you asked for me to explain myself, I did.
read it. don't read it.
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I have befriended someone who has high opinions of some people I regard as selfish toxic idiots. I don’t feel the need to launch a frontal assault on this person’s beliefs, but I also don’t want to simply agree with them.
Admittedly, it’s passive aggressive. I may not follow through.
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Most of the comments here seem very British. This is entirely the British way......saying something good isn't just taken at face value as a positive; instead it is taken to mean that every other time was very negative.
My dog would like you.
Find reasons to agree with someone. Things like "You are so right", "I never thought of that", " I loved the way you put that", "I remember what you said x days/weeks/years ago; it still makes me smile/encourages me"...
Few things are as uplifting as making someone else feel special. Be genuine about it and the recipients day (or more) will brighten.
I like that you tried.
(Is this one?)
Very nice.
What do you think the word "backhanded" means?
My backhand in tennis is much more powerful than my forehand, so it must mean "strong" or "powerful", it only makes sense
I think they thought it meant “veiled compliments” and not “veiled insults.”
Which isn’t hard to confuse really.
"Thank you for your contribution."