edit: the guy to our guy
I love trans-inclusive radical misogyny. it's so blursed. imagine if we had this instead of terfs.
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You've got me thinking about Pride and Prejudice and how Darcy's flavor of misogyny could be interpreted as hatred of patriarchal limitations on the social class "women" rather than a hatred of what women actually are. That is, he hates the behavior women act out as part of a performance they've been forced into, but he doesn't fully think through the concept of systemic oppression because he has no educational background to support that level of introspection, and so he's left blaming women. I'm sure there's probably quite a lot of writing on that angle already, but it's the first time it's ever occurred to me.
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Amazing. On the surface everything I read is bigotry and disdain, but I can't help liking the guy. At the very least he seems to have the consistency to choose his very own flavor of bigotry.
Not humor though; as far as I understand OOP he's 100% serious. Maybe one of those people that are kinda half aware that they're being an asshole just for conversation.
He sounds pretty autistic, and I mean that somewhat affectionately and not at all as an insult. His manner of thinking feels personally familiar to me.
Say we lived in a society that let dogs vote. You wouldn't have to hate dogs to be real about the fact that they're not our intellectual equals and to be frustrated with a system that gives them decision power that affects everyone in society. And you'd be even more frustrated when people around you say you're a bad person for being dog-phobic.
I think that's the internal world he's living in, based on a series of false premises that he genuinely believes to be true. I think that if these false facts were corrected then his conclusions would naturally improve. It's how it worked for me.
"pick a fucking struggle" Is now my favorite thing
Being a guy sucks, being a girl sucks. You don't get to opt out! Life must also be shit for you!
damn this is gold. that guy's a genius. he might have weird views but at least they're consistent and well thought-through (edit: except the "women are all stupid" part).
i also really cackled at the "damn, cheese, gender, what else do they deny themselves?" as if a gender is something you're enjoying. really brightens my day that some people see it that way so instinctively.
I want MORE
What a fascinating specimen... I wish we had more.
I hope the updates keep coming. We need to study this goober.
Lowkey, this is how you make "allies" XD
...what on Earth did I just read?
That's just the average lemmy user (derogatory)
TBH I think misogyny is much more deeply rooted in society than transphobia.
And here's the controversial take that'll bring me a lot of hate: the root of transness itself is somewhere between misogyny and misandry. Our generation can't defeat that, but we can target transphobia and hope that our children will come for misogyny and misandry 💪💪💪
the root of transness itself is somewhere between misogyny and misandry
That is the worst possible way you could say that. Even if you think people embracing gender norms for euphoria unintentionally reinforces harmful divisions, that isn't something inherent to transness itself. We can have gender without mistreating people for it; it's just an ongoing struggle to minimize mistreating people.
the root of transness itself is somewhere between misogyny and misandry.
What makes you feel that way? How does it jibe with people who reject both male and female identities, or who embrace both?
Is there a pool going on whether "Not Gay Name" is actually gay too? He sounds so closeted, it'd be easy money.
I don't think so because he seems jealous of the bisexual person. I think for him it would be better to have a male partner, since they're so much more competent, but that he unfortunately only finds himself attracted to women.
Don't forget berating the bi OOP for having "shit taste" in men
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I'd go in on that pool. None of his reactions exude disgust or distaste - more just an internal logic of possible inconveniences, compromises, or difficulties for those that are gay - such as not being seen as attractive by other gays, or discrimination/harassment.
Definitely seems like he's thought it through and that these could be his own counterarguments for coming out that he came up with.
Ah, "tsundere."
Well, it's something I guess?
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