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[–] chunes@lemmy.world 2 points 17 minutes ago

I didn't have a choice. They banned my account and instantly shadowban any new account I make. Even if I use a VPN or agent spoofer.

[–] Smeagol666@crazypeople.online 3 points 38 minutes ago

I was banned for expressing a political opinion. I was annoyed that someone else was trying to shoehorn politics into an art appreciation sub, to which I responded in a visceral way, typical of an alcoholic who had been dry for less than a week.

[–] Revan343@lemmy.ca 12 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

My Reddit app stopped working, and the official app is dogshit; Reddit kind of made the switch for me

[–] tiramichu@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 hour ago

Same for me. When the third party API fiasco happened, Reddit was dead to me.

If I can't engage on my terms, I don't want to engage at all

[–] nieminen@lemmy.world 12 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I just uninstalled Reddit and installed Sync for Lemmy. I'll still end up on reddit occasionally from a Google search result or something, but I don't go there intentionally.

[–] FooBarrington@lemmy.world 5 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Unfortunately Sync has been abandoned, so you might want to look for a new app soon.

[–] nieminen@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

That's sad. I'll keep using it until it stops functioning. Don't like my cheese moving unless it has to

[–] daBeans@sh.itjust.works 13 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Reddit made it simple for me; they banned the app I browsed it with (Boost, along with every other 3rd party app).

I don't browse on my desktop, and I refuse to use their 1st party app, so using Reddit became too inconvenient.

[–] RaoulDook@lemmy.world 2 points 59 minutes ago

Same here, as I only use open-source clients on the phone. It's been obvious for many years that the apps made by the social media companies are spyware, so I've stayed away from them.

But also I use the web mostly, and "switching" on the web just means closing one tab and opening another to visit a different URL. It's sad that many folks who use the Internet don't understand how or try to avoid the hellscape of app lock-in. The web is here for our open usage just as it has been for decades.

[–] daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 hours ago

I haven't post in Reddit since they announced the app ban. I found reddit and for me the transition was instant.

I still read reddit for information. But for posting and social media I solely use lemmy.

For me then hardest part was loosing the niche communities. But the UX at reddit is so bad that I prefer loosing those places that having to go through reddit UX to post in them.

[–] confuser@lemmy.zip 1 points 2 hours ago

Never used reddit but then found lemmy and liked it

At first I was petty. Now I have other things to do with my time so Lemmy has more than enough content.

[–] fittedsyllabi@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago

Want the freedom to speak your mind? Join Lemmy.

[–] twinklefruit 12 points 5 hours ago

Stop giving reddit your energy.

Start giving it to lemmy.

[–] Fyrnyx@kbin.melroy.org 12 points 6 hours ago

The API charade was more than enough to push me over. At that point, I was banned multiple times because that platform had become a cesspool of its own toxicity. You just couldn't escape it for long, no matter where you posted. When you got people dogpiling you just for complaining about work in a subreddit where it is completely warranted and acceptable to do it in, then that's a problem.

[–] CatsPajamas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 3 hours ago

Don't fully switch. I only use Lemmy on my phone, and reddit on my computer.

[–] trk@aussie.zone 8 points 6 hours ago

Signed up for Lemmy, participated in things I was interested in.

If you're that addicted to Reddit just stay there. I hate this "please beg me to stay" crap that goes on pretty frequently.

[–] Axolotl_cpp@lemmy.ml 8 points 6 hours ago

I just made the account, subscribed to all the equvalent groups and nothing else

[–] Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 4 hours ago

If you are struggling with this, then you are struggling in general. Figure out what's going wrong in your life and fix it.

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Reddit kept being shittier and shittier, the people got dumber and dumber, and I kept getting more and more worried about being about to say what I really wanted about magas being fucking terrorists. Then they killed third party apps, and while I tried to make it work for a little while, eventually they killed the workaround, and that was the last straw.

Fediverse/kbin/lemmy has been such a constant breath of fresh air, even if that breath continues to be bad news, that I have literally no reason to go back. The queer techie and neighbor tankies and based non-Americans just make this place so much healthier and positive in a time in history when we really need people who aren't giant assholes and who are awake at all and who make a conscious decision to at least try to do the right thing.

[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 5 hours ago

I didn't really, I have 13 Reddit tabs and like 25 Lemmy tabs open in this browser window atm

[–] Jackcooper@lemmy.world 5 points 7 hours ago

On reddit I had my feed of favorite subs

On lemmy I use connect and basically Ive blocked out communities that don't appeal to me / are in languages I don't speak. I started broad and narrowed it down which gives me enough content in a day.

[–] brbposting@sh.itjust.works 15 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

WELCOME!

Voyager’s mentioned but unlinked so here ya go, it’s great!

https://vger.app/

[–] some_designer_dude@lemmy.world 2 points 21 minutes ago

Ditto. Voyager is as close to the AlienBlue experience as I’ve seen.

[–] Tronn4@lemmy.world 19 points 10 hours ago

Cold turkey basically.

[–] Mrkawfee@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

Lemmy on phone. Reddit on desktop. Mostly on my phone so find myself using Reddit less and less.

Helps that Reddit is enshittifying.

[–] Corridor8031@lemmy.ml 3 points 7 hours ago

delete your account and get always on mullvad vpn, reddit often blocked the vpn exit node, so you just can not use it then lol (but sometimes it works still)

[–] teawrecks@sopuli.xyz 9 points 10 hours ago

What part are you struggling with? Not enough content? I get it, but also that's a feature. If you dislike centralized platforms more than you want to rot your brain, it takes zero effort.

[–] can@sh.itjust.works 164 points 16 hours ago (5 children)
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[–] 1XEVW3Y07@reddthat.com 16 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

Participating has really helped. I'm still struggling to post, but I try to comment wherever I feel I can add value, however small.

Build the platform you want to be part of.

Commenting always has value dude! Even small ones are like having a passing conversation in line at a coffee shop.

1 Flat White Please

Have a great day buddy!

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 hours ago

"be the change you want to see in the world", or in this case, "go ahead and post stuff. Nobody here is superhuman, but we try to do the right thing and be chill with people who also aren't quippy dickholes" aka, be human.

I'm sure this won't last, but for now it seems to be better than Reddit, at least. The way I've thought about it is that this takes a certain level/threshold of technical know-how/problem-solving to enter, so it filters out the most casual of thoughtless people (for now). Like if you can't put some serious thought into morality or slightly deeper rationality into a situation, you probably can't jump the bridge to fediverse-lemmy.

Also, as time goes on, I'm noticing all kinds of communities fragmenting into smaller, more specialized communities. Hopefully, Lemmy can be the platform/community of thoughtful considerates who are slightly tech elevated and more social.

[–] jballs@sh.itjust.works 101 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (2 children)

I browse exclusively on my phone, so deleting reddit apps and installing Lemmy apps was the biggest step for me.

I primarily browsed All, so setting my default sorting to All Top 12 Hours was key.

Finally, I made a point to comment and post more. This is where Lemmy beats Reddit hands down in my opinion. You can comment on posts that are hours old on All and still have meaningful discussions. Trying that on Reddit is like screaming into the void.

Edit: I also forgot to mention that I upvote almost everything. If you made a post that I read and it's not complete trash, you're getting an upvote. Same with comments. I upvote almost every comment I read - especially ones in response to my posts or comments. I feel like it let's people know they're being seen.

[–] TheMadCodger@piefed.social 38 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Your edit is a bit like that in the Fediverse in general. Since there's no algorithm, liking a post in Mastodon does nothing beyond letting op know you appreciate them. I like that.

[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 14 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I hate this phrase. There are several algorithms. There's new, hot, rising, etc. There's no company manipulating content discovery. That's the difference. Algorithms are great. For-profit companies with an incentive to control content is bad.

[–] TheMadCodger@piefed.social 5 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

In the Lemmy word, sure. I was referring to Mastodon where there is no hot or rising. It's just based off of who you're following and when you check. Hence likes doing nothing but informing the poster of your appreciation.

[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 2 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

I guess fair enough, though every other federated site I know of uses some other algorithm, and you seem to have been talking about the fediverse in general, not Mastodon, except for the example. Still, Mastodon's sort is still an algorithm. You can't display anything without an algorithm. That word just means a set of rules to complete a task. Mastodon uses one that only uses who you're following and time to decide what to display.

Algorithms aren't the issue. We can have sophisticated algorithms that help users find the content they want. That's great. It's when there is an incentive, and ability, to influence the algorithm by the platform controllers when there's an issue. The fediverse solves this not by ditching algorithms, but by having no singular controller.

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[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 8 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

Lemmy just isn't that good, you need other stuff too. I highly recommend finding independent niche website forums (the old school ones) for your interests and joining them. These are WAY less likely to have bots (unless political based) than Lemmy, Reddit, etc etc. They have real people, sometimes parroting bot stuff they saw elsewhere, but they are at least real and you can talk to them. And you get to know them because normally there's only like 50 active users on those websites at a time anyway. But damn do those 50 people know a lot about vaccuums, or trains, or magnet fishing or whatever the dedicated topic is for that site. It's the most unfederated you can be

[–] TomArrr@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

Hi, noob here too. How do I find these niche sites. And then, how do I "follow" them?

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[–] gi1242@lemmy.world 38 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

just deleted my account and all reddit apps. quit cold turkey. there's less on Lemmy. but I'm happier, and more productive πŸ™‚

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[–] RedSnt@feddit.dk 6 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I used to feel dread when I logged into reddit and saw that someone had replied to something I wrote. I no longer have an account there, and I even went for the nuclear option of overwriting all my old messages,

then deleting them in case they chose to restore them, because:

fuck spez


For me personally it helps that I'm on a dedicated instance for Danes, so that's kind of like a safe haven, or like a kiddie pool where it was easier to get to know lemmy at first.

I no longer dread when someone replies because most of the people here on lemmy aren't assholes. I think it's because there's this barrier to entry which filters out a lot of people, or maybe it's that the assholes are looking for fights to begin with and is therefore attracted to the biggest platforms?

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

Fuck Spez.

Edit. Also you can just outright block the shit out of people who you know are problems.

[–] RedSnt@feddit.dk 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

block the shit out of people who you know are problems

Funnily enough, I've mostly blocked NSFW stuff (and I'm not even a prude):

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

A bit too hornyposting hahaha

What did they even say to get considered too hornyposting?

[–] RedSnt@feddit.dk 1 points 58 seconds ago

I think it went like this: I was sorting by "top hour" and all I saw was this one person's NSFW posts. I looked at their posts just now and it looks a lot less chaotic than what I branded them as originally, but you know, all it take is just one bad day on main.

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 56 points 16 hours ago (7 children)

RIF stopped working so I started using Liftoff for Lemmy instead.

Don't really use the desktop site.

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[–] Veedem@lemmy.world 32 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

It took some time for me to realize that not finding a continuous stream of new content was a feature and not a flaw. It meant that there was no algorithm feeding me an endless stream of crap in hopes of keeping me glued to the screen. It meant I could close the app and move on with my day and check back much later. That realization made me embrace it.

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