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My best is: just stop. Yes, Lemmy is like the rural version of Reddit. Itβs slower, more niche communities, and not a lot of people making content. But screw Reddit. I was a 15 year reader. Theyβve destroyed it for corporate greed. Iβm all set.
I did exactly this, quit after 15 years.
Lemmy has a tiny fraction users compared to Reddit, it took me a while to get used to the new rhythm of things here. But after a few weeks, I realized that this is actually much better for me.
In 2 years I have encountered only one troll. There's a lot less content, yes, but I've learned that it's still more than enough. I do miss some of the active niche hobby communities, but I fixed that by digging up my old hobby forum site profiles. The old school forums are just as active as they ever were and I don't have to expose myself to Reddit's neverending stream of garbage anymore.
The transition was actually pretty painless and I wouldn't go back, even if they magically decided to clean the platform and restore the 3rd party apps. This is a smaller world and it fits me very well.
For the Reddit communities that are important to me I use their RSS feeds to keep an eye on new posts though I've logged out of my account and stopped participating. All actual browsing and participation was switched entirely to Lemmy.
I miss the finance communities on reddit. But everything else I looked into on reddit I can mostly find here. I also put the effort into posting when I can't find an existing topic. You have to have a pioneer mentality here to establish your community.
Getting permabanned on my main and any secondary accounts I had helped. The app on my phone I use for Lemmy makes it look pretty much exactly like the Reddit app so the only difference for me is less people which means some communities I'd like to talk to people in just has nobody in them.
I went from full lurker to participant since I felt like I'm not completely drowned out by others. That made it more fun, since Lemmy all feed is pretty small relatively speaking and lurking gets boring if you're expecting an endless feed of random junk. Plus, since it's small, you can also feel like you're contributing to the Lemmy community, since without your comments and posts, it won't exist.
Although get to the bottom of the all feed and things get wild.
That and everyone on here are not total contrarians to everything you post or comment on
No, we ARE contrarians. Take that!
Ugh. The contrarian quippiness there is so FUCKING sophomoric. And everybody being the same authority on everything and all being passive aggressive as shit. It's like a land where nobody wants to build anything and everybody desperately needs validation.
Here, though, we just want validation via trauma bonding.....
.... Wait a minute .... Is Lemmy a ...survivor-platform?
The API blackout. I said when blackout I'd quit, and I did.
If you're using the app, uninstall it. Delete your bookmarks, etc. Make it more than an idle thought to be on the site.
Use the time you would normally spend doomscrolling on reddit to do something productive on Lemmy. Look for new communities to join, reply to posts you would normally just upvote, post something to a community that could use a boost, etc. The place is far from empty but more interaction really helps to drive growth and build friendships.
See you around mate. π
Just by keeping at it. Lots of posts don't get a lot of comments, seems like a lot of lurkers. My front page only has one post with >10 comments and the rest are at 3 or fewer. But Reddit is still in the top ten more-visited web sites in the world. So can't expect the same number of comments compared to the bigger subs there.
Join a bunch of communities that you may be interested in to fill up your feed with a bunch of stuff to read. That way, if you want to take a break and read stuff, you can look here rather than on Reddit. You can look for communities here that are a close match to what you had on Reddit. Over time, you can dial them in and hopefully not feel the need to go back to Reddit.
I never go back and just to read Reddit. I only go there if a web search looking for something in particular takes me there.
Jerboa app configured to look like Baconreader.
Rip baconreader. It was the best. I still mourn it and wish they'd adapt the ux to lemmy. I'd buy that.
I deleted my account and the app
New accounts on reddit are heavily restricted making it impossible to share things so I left. Found Lemmy by accident. Instantly way better community and low barrier to contribute has me hereforawhile.
Got permbanned last year for saying tthat NeoNazis like Stonetoss aka Hans Kristian Graebner should be named and shamed. Tbh fuck that place. Reddit admins are Nazi sympathizers.
I just don't care for Reddit, or it's redditisms.
Build a community about something you love! It takes little effort. :) Then when you browse Reddit occasionally, you can steal memes. In fact, do that anyway if you end up browsing and post them here!
This is good advice. Whenever you find yourself thinking "I wish there was more ____ content" here I guarantee you're not the only one thinking that. It just takes one person to have the initiative to make the community and build it up. In my experience it's surprising how quickly others will follow.
My biggest advice is don't make a community and fill it with everything right away. If you have something you want to share maybe hold onto it. Make a list, post one every few days. These grow over time. One burst of posts fades away after a day or two, but regular, spread out posts keep it in people's feed for longer.
Everybody kinda already said the obvious answers, but I'll pop in to reiterate that my main reason was killing the API (because fuuuuuuck their shitty trash app filled with ads- or any and every app that has ads at all). I got here (Lemmy and piefed and mastodon)as part of the mass exodus that switched when the ax dropped on that.
I had wanted to before that, but addictions are addictions. But killing the app I actually liked using (combined with the dev making a Lemmy version that was extremely similar), I just kinda rode the wave to the Fediverse.
So like others, I still poke in when a search result points there, but I avoid it in general. Getting rid of the app will definitely help because it gets rid of the 1-tap access to shit.
I dont get the question. Same way you stay off any website. There are millions of sites out there. You stay of 99.9% as is. It's just like that.
Delete all your Reddit bookmarks and favorites and find a lemmy community to launch yourself into. I picked gaming and a few news ones and so far, it's fine.. Even moreso that I found the old.lemmy.zip page and it's comfortable to me as I was dedicated to old.reddit and RES.
Rage. The changes to 3rd party apps really pissed me off and I thought it was best to use my anger productively.
I went on a 10 day backpacking trip with no reception. I deleted my reddit apps and bookmarks before I went. So got over the withdrawals during the trip, and there was just enough friction to reinstall when I got back that I never bothered.
I was also very mad about them killing the API for 3rd party mod tools and the resulting slip into AI slop and misogynist claptrap on the sub I helped mod. It's an empty Internet wasteland now; just bots and MAGA incels yelling at each other.
I nuked my account and stopped going there. Just make the decision to never go back and then be done with it.
I check in on Reddit occasionally to see what the normies are up to.
But it helps that Reddit is an intolerably shitty platform.