I'm going to be an outlier here, since I got a boyfriend at 16 I was single for about 6 months. I dated that boyfriend for 6 years, spent some time single and then started dating my now husband. We were friends before I broke up with my ex, the breakup wasn't related at all.
All of it.
Outside of my prepubescent years, I spent roughly 4.5 years being "Single". I did have some partners here and there but never rose to a full relationship. I was simply a bit of a wreck after a bad relationship ended and destroyed my trust.
Ultimately, I'm a companion orientated person and a bit of a romantic. Being single isn't the end of the world for me but I miss casual touch and someone to do things with. I make due and am generally happy and haven't really been in the market searching for about 1.5 years now.
The pros of being single: free time, make plans with whomever, low drama, quiet life.
Cons: free time, lack of general intimacy, lack of hobby sharing, and doing things as I am companion oriented
My partnership goal would be to find someone who has some hobby interests that align with mine and likes the quiet life. At this point I won't be having kids and marriage doesn't feel all that important. I don't need a document to agree to be with someone. I'd just want a place out in a rural area where we can enjoy quiet living, gardening, tinkering, and evenings with fires, jokes and the occasional hosting of people to hang out.
So far, over 50 years and counting. I've always been single.
Long enough to accept it. Lots of reasons that ultimately add up to being an inadequate person, but also no transportation/income in a semi-rural area (also health/personality issues) so I'm a shut-in and thus don't ever meet people. That said, even in school/college it's not like I ever really made strong connections with people, romantic or otherwise. Non-religious in USA (esp. given rural) certainly doesn't (and more so didn't) help with a dating pool either.
And even if none of those were issues, I'm just not that interesting. I suspect the people who might like to be around me are probably also in their house more-often-than-not, and not within any distance/likelihood of meeting.
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