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I feel so invalidated..
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Sounds like you need new friends.
When you tried to express your feelings, your friend made it about themselves. You are the one who was wronged, you are allowed to be upset! How could she even talk about autism this way, especially knowing you are one, and knowing you are listening to everything being said. Anyone would be upset hearing those things, even more so if it's from someone they trust enough to share something like that with! You are valid!
Agree. This is shitty friends being shitty. Whether you forgive them or not, don't feel bad for making them upset. It was important and they clearly needed and deserved it.
as someone who is queer i actually think the comparison is pretty apt, sounds like she doesn't understand your experiences. i'm sorry you had to go through this
that's not a friend, that's an acquaintance that thinks you're less than human. as A Gay™, that was an apt comparison, especially considering an autism diagnosis has been specifically used as another way to oppress and infantilize trans and gay people (especially AFAB people). absolute scumbag behavior. i'm really sorry you had to go through that. :(
When I hear about the experiences of trans people from when they were growing up, going through school, how they felt different, I relate so much as an autistic person.
That is the perfect response. You didn't call her out for being gay. You tried to convey your experience in a way you would expect her to be able to relate to directly. Sadly, that didn't seem to be the way she understood it.
Communication is hard.
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