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How to build a house.

90% of the work of building a house can be done by a semi-competent DIY'er. Learning the basics of framing, roofing, plumbing, electrical, drywall, etc, is not that hard.

Upwork is a website where you can search and hire freelance software devs - and there are other, similar sites out there as well. Vetting the person you hire will be a whole process in itself.

Ngl, climbing becomes a lot easier if you are lighter. But also, there's nothing stopping you from enjoying it at a heavier weight - you just climb routes with an easier numeric grade. And there are various climbing disciplines that are less disadvantageous to heavier climbers, like ice climbing or mountaineering. If you want to take a really traditional approach, you could enter climbing by way of hiking and backpacking, which are also a lot of fun and have a decent amount of skill overlap.

Also, I have no science to back this up, but I just intuit that when you consistently do activities like hiking, running, and climbing where lower body weight is advantageous, your brain notices and predisposes you to lose weight.

So give it a shot!

Similar. I started rock climbing about a decade ago. It's fun, you make friends, learn new skills, and get exercise.

I mean, the problem is that Nick Offerman is too wholesome. Young guys are horny. They need role models who are also horny. But the message that is sent is "it is good to be a man, but only once you are 40 with a pot belly and a wife and kids and no sex drive." Or "it is okay to be a man, but if you want to be horny, you have to be gay". Or "it is okay to be a horny straight man, but only if you are so dumb and mockable as to be harmless."

Show me the man, fictional or not, who is straight, sexual, and not constantly the butt of the joke. Show me an example of where a man wanting to have sex for the sake of having sex - not to get a girlfriend or live happily ever after - is framed as a legitimate goal which should be supported by the people around him, and which is not seen as a farce.

I always have to push back against this pathologization narrative. The very obvious alternatives are:

(1) that these guys you are talking about would have easily fallen into the trap of the right wing manosphere if it had been available, because being unable to find a parter when your hormones are urging you to and when everyone else around you seems able to find one is intensely painful. But you wouldn't hear about it, since no one talks about it, because the least attractive thing you can do is talk about how you are frustrated by your lack of romantic success.

(2) the nerdy guys might just accept their lack of partners, but these days the demographic of unpartnered young men is significantly more diverse, and more likely to contain, let's say.... less discerning thinkers...

It's kind of like saying "back in my day, no one really cared about getting kicked in the head by a horse. Yeah, it happened, and it sucked, but it just wasn't a big deal. There wasn't the social stigma that getting kicked in the head by a horse was bad, or that you shouldn't get kicked in the head by a horse."

Judged by whom?

Right, but if they keep talking while the other person is trying to talk, that's rude.

I would think that if I wasn't so certain that RFK Jr was actually a complete moron

Um... anything? I ask people for help all the time. And then they help me and are happy to do so. People like helping other people. However, I've discovered that they don't like:

• Having all their suggestions shot down without due consideration.
• When the person they are helping isn't putting in much effort.
• When the person they are helping considers their help worthless.
• When they are the only person the person they are helping is calling for help.
• When the person they are helping always complains about things, but never appreciates the progress they've made, the help they've received, or the options they have.

Helping a friend and seeing them succeed is one of the best feelings in the world. Trying to help someone and seeing them flounder because they refuse to listen to sound advice and do the obvious but difficult work is a shitty feeling.

Yeah, I mean, there is a solution. Liberalized zoning and Georgist tax policies. The problem is rarely that there is a lack of space to live - it is that that space is poorly utilized. And this is true because (1) it is illegal to build what people want where they want it in many places and (2) investors and homeowners speculate on land value without providing value to anyone else.

Yeah, it's weird and cringy how into it some adults are. I think part of it is status, though. Everyone knows Disney is expensive, so taking your family is a way to show off your status to everyone with the pics you take for social media.