We need to form large groups of like minded individuals that have enough voting power to sway the parties. If a socialist gun club had 4 million members you'd have congresspeople and senators lining up for meetings like they do with the NRA or used to do with large unions.
We're all isolated now, therefore weak. The more groups we form the more we amplify our voices. Most of us are voting "anything but Republican" not for the change we actually desire.
Don't feel bad. I'm a man in the USA working in a corporate office. When my son was born I took my time off and it was fantastic for bonding with my son and helping my wife out. Honestly IDK how so many women do it alone.
I'd feel worse about making my wife work extra hard than my colleagues... That said, the person covering my area screwed everything up so badly I decided it was better to find a new job vs fix it. So I took my three months, worked a week and put in my notice and got paid out for another two months of accrued leave.
You are giving them too much credit, they didn't study history. Conservatives fear them because their world is so small and the unknown scares them. They're terrified because they've never been abroad, they live their whole ass lives knowing the same people they grew up with, driving the same roads, working the same shit job.
They don't understand everyone is just a person.
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