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I would consider trying DBT if both CBT and EMDR didn't work out for you. I know what you mean about how silly and invalidating it feels to have a therapist just telling you to think differently. DBT is a lot less thought-oriented, and more feeling/behavior-based. I just started listening to a podcast called "The Skillful Podcast" where they take you through the techniques, if you want to try it out. If that doesn't work though, you're welcome to share a bit more about what you're looking for and I feel like folks here could try to help you find something that fits better.

I like the concept of this as well, and also agree that the sayings on there need to go. They're so cheesy, it makes me nauseous. Lol. How about some good old feeling words? Or maybe you can write down your usual moods and needs. For me, I know I have moods while working from home where I can be so stressed out and frazzled, I just want silence and seem snappy - but inside, I feel like the world is falling apart. For needs, I'd probably put something like: invitation to go for a walk or share a snack or a hug. :)

I love the idea of going out and having tasty drinks with friends without the pressure of needing to be intoxicated. Think of it this way - if alcohol was the only reason people were going to bars, why even have cocktails to cover up the taste of it? To me it seems to fall very much in line with the other trends of society lately, like with bubbly fruity waters or healthier versions of soda. I've seen more and more people abstaining from alcohol for reasons beyond addiction. Wanting to be healthier and live life without a hangover, taking care of their bodies, challenging social norms of what's considered fun, replacing alcohol intoxication with other kinds, trying to connect in more authentic ways.

Personally I find myself drawn to these new ways of living too, and even though I still drink on occasion, I feel a lot better when I don't and I'm glad there are alternatives that are all-in (rather than just ordering a soda at the bar).

I've had some good times journaling, but it's been hard for me to start up as a regular practice. I never know what to write about. Do you have any suggestions from your own experience on what to focus on for someone that's just getting started?

PETG is truly a pain!! You'd think with a plastic used in water bottles, it would do better with moisture. I recommend the brand CC3D if you want something reliable (and ultra cheap!) Also remember that PETG needs more room between the nozzle and the build plate (higher z offset) so that the filament doesn't stick to the nozzle and make a mess :)