They meant the asshole commenter was having a mental breakdown. I'm sorry they said that, it's ridiculous.
You're allowed to grieve or distract yourself in any way you want. (I would discourage anything self destructive obviously)
There's absolutely nothing wrong with going online. I'm incredibly sorry for your loss, and I am sending many good thoughts your way. ♡
I'm on .world and i can downvote on the voyager testflight app