Is it normal to feel attacked and attack when argue on the internet? (sh.itjust.works)

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I rarely feel attacked when I talk with people in person. And we all take people feelings into consideration enough so no one is trying to attack anyone.

I was not actively commenting on social media since I was 13. But when I joined Lemmy i saw the statistics only 1% of people are actively posting and commenting on social media. And since I knew I was in 99% of people who are only consuming and really wanted Lemmy to take off I tried to be more active.

But now I find myself way too often attacked and attacking. And I always judged people that are attacking others on Xitter or Facebook.

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[-] GetOffMyLan@programming.dev 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

A big problem is that it's just text. In real life tone and body language go a huge way to determining how someone means to make you feel.

If someone is disagreeing with you in real life it's much easier to tell if they just have a different opinion and respect yours or are being a dick.

Often when someone comes across really rude it's meant in a half joking way which again would be easy to tell in an actual conversation.

These misunderstandings lead to things heating up real quick.

this post was submitted on 14 Nov 2024

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