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this post was submitted on 15 Dec 2024
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I suspect that mental health and social support at home play huge roles here.
aka: the same things that effects everybody's outcomes.
That's true.
I have a question I can pose to anyone, but I am posing to you, do you think Lemmy focuses way too much on the things which we can't control and disregards what we can? I.e., when I asked that question I wanted actionable steps on which I can base my life around, something to help me be better, instead every answer I have gotten seems to focus on things we can't control.
I was thinking the answer would revolve around Attitude, Discipline and Mindset, and tho the answers are as revealing as these, I am not getting anything I can act on. Is Lemmy fixating on the negative ๐ค
There are things you can manage, but they tend to be about controlling your environment.
JD Vance is the perfect example of someone that benefited from the military. Fit in (and let's be honest being a straight white male still helps). Find a job that involves sitting behind a desk. Get some experience pulling a 9-5 for a few years, and then go to university for free. Don't get injured. Don't get PTSD.
All of this attitude with a capital A is too late. You can't Attitude yourself out of a missing leg, and you can't Attitude yourself out of PTSD. You can learn to cope better but coping well with PTSD is still worse than not having it.
Either have a plan to avoid danger or you need to be lucky.