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I am thinking about not having children because I don't think that I want the responsability of being a father, but I am scared that I am going to be all alone in the future (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 days ago by Confidant6198@lemmy.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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[–] kredditacc@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If my parents thought like that, I wouldn't be here talking to you (my parents were very very poor). The comparison you made is poor/lame. You have absolutely no power over your chances of winning the lottery, but you have power over how you may teach your children. Your lack of knowledge can be fixed by discussing it with other parents (perhaps your own parents, they did raise a good person, wouldn't you agree?).

[–] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 2 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I don't know you well enough go know if you're a good person. But I like to think most people are kind. I'm sorry to hear about the situation you grew up in, and I'm glad to hear you're doing alright.

You definitely did not have the same chances as a kid from a rich family though. It's those chances a parent should consider. And the op of this threat is appears to have considered them insufficiently good to be acceptable for a kid.

That is subject to plenty of nuance, and individual opinion. But you definitely shouldn't just shoot and hope for the best. Make sure you have a decent chance first.

[–] kredditacc@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I don’t know you well enough go know if you’re a good person.

The "you" in my comment refers to you, not me. Do you believe you're a good person? Do you believe you are well-adjusted, mature, and sane? Do you think you can live amongst society?

I’m sorry to hear about the situation you grew up in, and I’m glad to hear you’re doing alright.

I'm not here to collect sympathy. And you really should stop saying that to every unfortunate person you met. (At least to Asians, I don't know if Westerners would think differently)

Make sure you have a decent chance first.

This, I agree. With the words, not the spirit. By that, I mean that a responsible person would improve their own material condition to make their goals achievable, then they would go ahead and achieve those goals, sooner or later.

[–] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 1 points 10 hours ago

The "you" in my comment refers to you

I don't see how that changes anything?

I'm not here to collect sympathy

You do you. I'll do me.

This, I agree. With the words, not the spirit.

I'm afraid I do not know of spirits in words. From what I can tell we agree. For "reading between the lines" and stuff like that you'll have to ask someone else.