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Goddamn I wish I could. People describe it as pleasurable and then relaxing. But I've never been able to do it. It's like either the nerve endings aren't hooked up right or there is some sort of brain defect, but I lack the ability for pleasure there, myself.
Sorry, I'm not the OP.
I'm almost afraid to ask, but are you sure you're doing it right?
I've tried various different areas. If there is some sort of secret technique that everyone just magically knows, I could never figure it out.
Without much else to go off of, the best all purpose advice I can give is: lubrication. Best wishes to you!
… what are you working with down there?
Vulva/vagina
Explore.
Be patient with yourself.
Keep exploring.
Keep being patient.
I mean...I'm old enough and have tried on and off for years at this point that that advice isn't particularly helpful. Maybe if I was in my teens or twenties, sure. But people say things like "oh you're just a late bloomer" or "oh you'll just figure it out, it comes naturally" have never been all that helpful to me.