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Suggestions for men to develop proper masculinity (lemmy.zip)

submitted 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) by confuser@lemmy.zip to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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toxic masculinity, tons of people aware of the bad things but most people think its taboo for men to think about their social reformation.

Some of my more well versed lady friends basically describe it like "the women can't do all the social reformation, men gotta do their part too"

Would be nice to make this thread into a list of resources, like groups, YouTube channels, websites, books, whatever.

It would be very helpful to define these things for people too I think, I don't think there is a name for men's social revolution yet, or at least one that is well known.

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[–] Berttheduck@lemmy.ml 25 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

The Lord of the Rings. Aragorn is a perfect example of positive masculinity. Strong, brave, a good leader, emotionally available and connected to all his friends. Sam and Frodo are also very positive. Books and films are good. Cinema Therapy YouTube channel has a few episodes on the lord of the rings and they are all good watches. The Aragorn one covers positive masculinity I think.

[–] WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Aragorn also abandoned his duties for decades because he was overwhelmed with feelings of inadequacy. No matter how good you are, it is also ok to forgive yourself for not being perfect or having genetic skeletons in your closet.

[–] Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 15 hours ago

Embrace the skeletons, have them work for you, even!