Not op but I got perma banned for fighting with people who were defending massive pedophile Dr disrespect. They were arguing that "it was legal that means it's okay". I pointed out that the US is fucked and certain states have consent laws at 16. Legally he could fuck a 16 year old. However that doesn't change the fact that he's a pedophile scumbag regardless of legality.

I was then banned for "child sexual content" :)

[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 3 points 10 hours ago

I avoid YouTube/twitch drama like the plague, because you can't really tell if they support or criticize the streamers,

[–] RizzoTheSmall@lemm.ee 3 points 14 hours ago

I got banned for commenting on a video of something like "guy loses it in van and runs down protestors" my comment was pointing out that they were running into the way of an already (slow) moving van and then leaping dramatically to the ground. It was like a grade school production of a Chinese insurance scam en masse.

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 19 hours ago

I pointed out that the US is fucked and certain states have consent laws at 16

Yeah, that's actually the average age worldwide

Not defending Dr Diddles, mind you, but the US is actually better than a lot of places thanks to having parts where it's 17 or 18 (and... Worse, depending on where you look)

[–] TwinTitans@lemmy.world 24 points 1 day ago

Sounds right.

[–] fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 21 points 1 day ago

Reddit has gotten so pathetic. Sad to see it fall so hard. If it was like this in 2012 I would have never signed up

[–] MajesticElevator@lemmy.zip -3 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I tend to think that 16yo is fine so idc, they do their things

However I still think Disrespect is a moron (for other reasons)

Going to get downvoted but I’m making my part by de-echo chamberifying lemmy

[–] EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

This is like the defining case of "just because it's legal doesn't make it okay." An 18 year old and a 16 year old is one thing. It's very different when it's a 30-something year old and a 16 year old. That's like a high school senior trying to get with a 12 year old.

There's a massive power imbalance in a relationship like that where the 30-something has basically total control. Even a 30-something with a college kid has issues imo, let alone a kid who's a sophomore or junior in high school. That's some Quamire from Family Guy shit. "I love high school girls. I get older, they stay the same age."

Half your age plus seven is the rule of thumb that I've heard. At 18, that means the lowest you should be dating is 16. At 32, it's 23. Etc.

Also, echo chambers are good, actually, and you can't change my mind. Life isn't supposed to be a constant argument, and the criticism of surrounding yourself with people who generally agree with you is a tactic that's been used to prevent people from simply cutting toxicity out on social media platforms.

[–] MajesticElevator@lemmy.zip 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

"just because it's legal doesn't make it okay."

I know.

There's a massive power imbalance in a relationship like that where the 30-something has basically total control.

I’ll not agree and say it depends on the two people. It might also not be a relationship and just a one time sex thing, or other. But I’ll agree that it doesn’t sound good in general, but it’s pretty common and doesn’t always end badly.

Half your age plus seven is the rule of thumb that I've heard. At 18, that means the lowest you should be dating is 16. At 32, it's 23. Etc.

I know this rule and I find it too restrictive at specific ages, and generalizing something that can’t be only related to age. It all depends on the personality and maturity of the 2.

My take: being attracted to minors when 23+ isn’t fine and pretty disgusting (when the main goal is sex or similar), but if the people talk a lot and learn about each other, then falling in love isn’t so disgusting and is understandable, although the adult should really pay attention to how they behave and should avoid any hierarchy

[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 39 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well the sentence that initially got me a three day ban was "Hitler did nothing wrong" which I'm aware doesn't look good on paper but it was a quote and not my own words. According to Reddit the decision was automated so I appealed what I thought was an honest mistake and that's when they probably saw my recent posts promoting Lemmy and talking about Palestine and decided to ban me permanently. That or they didn't like that I filed an appeal. I haven't used Reddit nearly as much since getting on Lemmy anyway so this is more funny than annoying but still a weird way to go.

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 30 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Having gone cold turkey and just left, it's weird no matter how you leave. Realizing how addicted I was, was kind of hard for my psyche.

[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 5 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (3 children)

It's next to impossible to go back anyways, people are getting banned eventually. I've been seeing reports of people's 5+years acc getting shadow banned for very little reason it doesn't make sense. A comment removal, low karma, cqs scores, age is enough to trigger a full site wide shadowban. I've been hearing also temp bans turned into permanent almost as fast the temp ban ends

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 hours ago

I bet they're focusing on the old.r users, they've been wanting to get rid of that for awhile. If they shadowban you and leave on your own randomly, there won't be another mass exodus. That's conjecture though.

[–] msprout@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

Spez loves Elon. Wouldn't surprise me if he was bending the knee to try and get Elon to buy Reddit.

[–] SpaceShort@feddit.uk 5 points 9 hours ago

Sounds a lot like what happened on Xitter after Musk took over. I suspect they are intentionally targeting left wingers.

[–] YesButActuallyMaybe@lemmy.ca 3 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

I feel you. ‚But my Account is 8years old and I ha e so much comment karma‘… can’t buy shit with reddit Karma and you basically work to make fucking spez more Money. Just delete the Account and Never come back, it’s a shithole anyway and you just want to hold on to old old.reddit

[–] rumba@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 hours ago

They can buy plenty of shit with your karma, It's a book personally written by you about you.

It's just not any good for 'you'

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 hours ago

I did not communicate that well. I didn't mean "just left" as in recently, I meant I left out of the blue 100%. When I'm done with something, I'm done. Did the same with lemmy .world. I don't log in and I don't look at any of the old places. Randomly, I get info from a search, but that's it.

[–] sorrybookbroke@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Not OP but I got banned on reddit atleast 4 times. Zero bans on Lemmy though.

All for supposed harassment usually after having a disagreement in certain subreddits. Honestly could be anything their report system seems easy to abuse

Now, I don't tend to have those on Lemmy nearly as much, but when the pedophile I was disagreeing with reported me here the mods were chill to hear my side after issuing me a warning.

For both the more chill atmosphere and the better mods I like more here.

[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 3 points 10 hours ago

Same, plus they said I was report abusing.

[–] jaybone@lemmy.zip 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Zero bans on Lemmy though.

Check dubvee. You might be surprised.

[–] sorrybookbroke@sh.itjust.works 2 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (2 children)

Oh shit, how do I do that?

On bans I did mean sitewide as I know atleast veganhomecooks banned me (no clue why though I never interacted there. Just lurked). Fully understandable to think I meant communities with how I phrased it though lol.

Again though, I'd love to know how to check for bans. I'm very curious

[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 3 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Sounds like you got crossbanned, basically certain subs will look at which subs a user visits and it autobans you, for example joe roegan sub is a common to get crossbanned from several subs if you ever commented on it. The sub itself makes fun of jrogan rather than support him

[–] jaybone@lemmy.zip 3 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I forget how I checked.

The 30rock community on dubvee’s instance made it into my “all” feed once and I tried to comment. That’s when I learned. I was super offended lol. I started by searching my name in their mod logs. Turns out I had been banned there for like 9 months. For something I said on some com that wasn’t even on their instance. Then they have some kind of scripts (?) that sync the com bans and automatically turn them into instance bans. It’s crazy. The amount of effort that went into their automated ban infrastructure and ban culture is … impressive?

[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 3 points 10 hours ago

That's sorta like reddit, they have crossban privileges

[–] Madison420@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Very sub and subject dependent honestly.

[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 3 points 10 hours ago

Yea, but it's infested the whole site though, especially reddits current filters now shadowbans your accounts if you look at itwrong