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All the people who "accidentally" said things like "they (Chinese) just don't value life like we do" within earshot of me kind of merge together in my memory as one enormous workplace bully.
The ones who would then pretend to spot me and wide-eyed add, "Oh, not you Dianne. You're one of the good ones" form the second enormous workplace bully.
There's a reason I moved here "for a year or two" … almost 25 years ago.
😬😬😬 thats a yikes. Thats several yikes even 😅
This is why I laugh bitterly at the notion that Canada is somehow a "nice" society that "celebrates" diversity.
I'm sure it looks this way if you're white. It doesn't look this way if you're "Asian" (between people who call us "their fetish" and people who do what I reported above), if you're Native, if you're Middle Eastern of any stripe, if you're Indian, if you're Somali, if you're ... You get the drift.
Yeah. It does feel like some places have never had to confront racism and work through it in the same way America has (not that we're doing a great job 😬😬😬🥲). America has a LOOONG history of acute racism, but it's also been a cultural conversation here more than I think it has been in a lot of other places.
It seems to me like it kinda manifests differently here and some people assume the outwards, acute image of racism they imagine in America is the only way it can look, and there's no need to reflect on how they themselves relate to race. Or maybe that racism is mostly about mistreatment of black folks, and they never make the connection to their gross assumptions and internalized "othering" of other demographics. Racism comes in a lot of different flavors and intensities, whether it's acute hatred, or gross subtext that shows you the assumptions someone has made about people who look differently than themselves.
I'm sorry to hear you've dealt with so much gross behavior in Canada, that's always a sadening thing. Sending love from one of your neighbors down south, take care!
Thanks. I'm sorry you're going through all that shit you're going through right now Down South™. 😥
It only looks that way if you're dumb. There are only two types of society in this world: racist, and racist but trying to deal with it.
It's why I have a lot of schadenfreude for Sweden/Scandinavia as well. Enlightened multicultural social democracy for everyone... Until migrants show up with the wrong race/religion then suddenly a fascist contingent of your population materializes and there's a "security crisis"
People really are vile sometimes. Usually you have to just tell from people's behaviour to you but they actually fucking verbalised it.