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Women are trained to value themselves by their appearance and simultaneously hate it. We're too fat, legs too short, wrong shape, stretch marks from childbirth etc etc. And it's so much worse if you're trans, non white and so on. What do you like about your body?

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[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I've been training loads so my arms are really toned! I've got a great shape and limited bingo wings.

I have big lovely disney princess eyes with long lashes! I can look doe eyed sometimes, which I really like. I've also got a little mole near my eye that's an actual beauty spot!

I've got really graceful, elegant fingers. People sometimes ask if I used to play piano because they're perfect for it!

Also, I'm here. Age is a gift not everyone is given, and although I'm officially middle aged I know I'm lucky to be here.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I started lifting in October '23 after a former student of mine opened a small gym and invited me to train with him. I entered it thinking "my sport involves lifting heavy objects and putting them back down again" and now think "wow, there's so much technique and knowledge needed to do this effectively and safely".

And I can squat and deadlift about 60% more than my body weight (as my trainer put it: I was gifted with "sturdy peasant legs", the bastard!) I can do rows of various forms with about 60% of my body weight (thought I hate my life for a few days after back day), but I can't crack 80% of my body weight with bench presses. 😥 I'm at about where I want to comfortably be so now I just maintain, not build.

So if you're lifting, good on you. It's one of those things you can do to look and feel better both that doesn't take a huge amount of time compared to doing cardio (which by definition needs huge chunks of time: I hate cardio day!).

[–] insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I love lifting! If it wasn't for the kids, I'd be a monster by now. Are you really squatting and deading 1.6x bodyweight, that's so cool! Well done! I'm back to almost bodyweight but I keep having setbacks... Just life, ya know. Either way, it's a great way to exercise and great for your bones too.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 4 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

Yeah, my squats and deadlifts developed in no time flat. It surprised both me and my trainer. (Hence the "sturdy peasant legs" crack.) I could probably have taken it to double but that would have put an unpleasantly unbalanced look and feel to my lower body. My back developed well too, but I hit a wall hard at the chest and it stayed there. I can't break it. :(

[–] insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago

Samesles on the balance. I can lift a lot but can't do a pull-up!

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Oh, and my SO got terrified with some of the pelvic lifts I was doing. I can now almost casually throw him off me without using my arms. 🙃

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's really impressive mate well done! I'm the other way, weights bores me to tears but cardio I love.

[–] insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I watch films on my laptop when I lift since I'm at home. Otherwise it can get dull in between sets.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Yep that's not a bad idea. Love your username!