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Women are trained to value themselves by their appearance and simultaneously hate it. We're too fat, legs too short, wrong shape, stretch marks from childbirth etc etc. And it's so much worse if you're trans, non white and so on. What do you like about your body?

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[–] twice_hatch@midwest.social 1 points 1 hour ago

I like my hair a lot

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 4 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

I've grown to love being tall and physically big. I like to stand up straight and take up space. I used to be self conscious about it, especially in school, and I wished I was delicate and waifishly feminine but I'm owning it now. Being made on a larger scale helps me feel powerful and confident. I am hard to intimidate and I can stand up to bullies.

[–] MystValkyrie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 hours ago

I love this post. I can be very self-critical.

I have really long legs, and I like my wavy hair. I'm learning to love being tall the more I develop my wardrobe of clothes that fit.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 6 hours ago

My curves 😊 I've come a long way in accepting my body and coming to enjoy being in my own skin. Being somewhat overweight has been an insecurity for a long time, especially comparing myself to how much I used to weigh. Had a big moment recently where I realized that I love my body so much more now than I did then and that even if I could go back to being the same weight, which was underweight, I wouldn't want to. I'd rather be the size I am now. I still have some health goals in mind but I lost any feeling of like regret or wishing I could go back to having the body I had then.

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 1 points 6 hours ago

I have, pardon my French, juicy ass and thighs and I love it about myself, where I used to hate it

[–] Okokimup@lemmy.world 4 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I have shapely legs and a nice face. I appreciate the lightness of my body hair. I've got a nice strong grip; my brother always gets me to open jars.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 6 hours ago

Those are great things! I'm jealous of your grip, many times I've had to knock on at neighbours and get them to open jars for me 😢

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 11 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Partially because I stopped smearing industrial chemicals on my skin willy-nilly, I like the fact that I can pass as being in my late 40s.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 7 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I honestly thought you were only in your 20s! Your lemmying is always so vibrant and full of life. I shouldn't have made that assumption

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 6 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

🤣 I'm 59! 🤣

I just have the heart of a child. (Insert Stephen King's joke here.)

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Omg you're actually older than me! Hey fellow old gal!

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 3 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Hello, fellow hag!

So which broomstick do you favour!? 😄

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Classic wood of course! How many naps do you reckon you'll have today?

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 3 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Weirdly I've never developed the napping habit. If I try to nap I wake up feeling worse than when I started off. My SO knows that if I'm voluntarily napping that something is badly wrong with me.

Mine's lightning-struck jujube tree. It allows me to fly safely in thunderstorms.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 5 points 14 hours ago

Oh yours is fancy, you're a hag with class

[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

I’m slowly learning to like my abdomen area. I put on ~15lbs during my last depressive episode. I’m down 5, and would like to keep going, but 2 hookups I’ve had lately complimented how petite I was. I’m so hard on myself, like all of the time, that hearing those compliments changed my perspective a bit. I think I’m content at this weight, and will make more efforts to stop counting calories and starving myself. I almost certainly have some sort of a eating disorder, so this is pretty big for me 🙂

[–] 7empest@beehaw.org 2 points 46 minutes ago

I like this comment. I have slowly begun to accept my abdomen as well. For years I avoided the front tucked style because I thought my abdomen / stomach area was too big. The weather has been better the last few weeks and I decided to tuck y tshirts in the front... And guess what, the world didn't fall apart. Next step, a crop top I bought last week.... I'm going to win this mental battle

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 8 points 17 hours ago

That's great Jessica! Abdomen is a difficult one, we're not built to have flat stomachs and yet we're expected to. Most women don't like theirs so you're doing well. EDs are hard, they get very county and it's hard to healthily lose weight without it getting triggered.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 17 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I've been training loads so my arms are really toned! I've got a great shape and limited bingo wings.

I have big lovely disney princess eyes with long lashes! I can look doe eyed sometimes, which I really like. I've also got a little mole near my eye that's an actual beauty spot!

I've got really graceful, elegant fingers. People sometimes ask if I used to play piano because they're perfect for it!

Also, I'm here. Age is a gift not everyone is given, and although I'm officially middle aged I know I'm lucky to be here.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 9 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I started lifting in October '23 after a former student of mine opened a small gym and invited me to train with him. I entered it thinking "my sport involves lifting heavy objects and putting them back down again" and now think "wow, there's so much technique and knowledge needed to do this effectively and safely".

And I can squat and deadlift about 60% more than my body weight (as my trainer put it: I was gifted with "sturdy peasant legs", the bastard!) I can do rows of various forms with about 60% of my body weight (thought I hate my life for a few days after back day), but I can't crack 80% of my body weight with bench presses. 😥 I'm at about where I want to comfortably be so now I just maintain, not build.

So if you're lifting, good on you. It's one of those things you can do to look and feel better both that doesn't take a huge amount of time compared to doing cardio (which by definition needs huge chunks of time: I hate cardio day!).

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 5 points 16 hours ago

That's really impressive mate well done! I'm the other way, weights bores me to tears but cardio I love.

[–] fossilesque@mander.xyz 15 points 18 hours ago

I've stopped biting my nails, so I've been using all the polish. :)