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She says "I don't feel like there's any connection between us anymore", which makes me think there was at some point. Presumably that'll be why they got married. I didn't say anybody was entitled to a partner, nor do I believe that.
Right before that she said she "settled"
That's already a bad way to start a marriage. Also, that's toxic behavior and unfair to the the partner.
I know you didn't say it but OP's chat gpt thing clearly seems like she feels entitled to it without doing much of any actual work.
Hence why this thread has comments that she is the problem
And judging from what is written in the post, and that she's implied the connection between them has gone, do you think her partner may have "settled" after getting married, too?
It's a widely told joke that spouses "settle" and "stop trying" after tying the knot. It just feels odd to me personally to jump to blaming her for picking a bad guy, and assuming she's not doing any work (she also describes the kind of work she is putting into the relationship in the post).
Knowing how men are... I don't dispute the behaviour she alleges.
However, I also dont buy she didn't know this before going into marriage. Hence my original thesis that she should have been choosing better.
I find it odd that a person can say she settled for a guy and two years later she lost connection and somehow this is the guys problem.
With respect of her showing love... Good for trying but it only matters if that's what he wanted.
Reading between the lines it sounds like they are doing things they think other person wants BC that'd what they want. That's a maturity issue and or age gap.
8 years is a lot of time esp in your 20s but women marry older then pika face when dude doesn't treat you as an equal partner.
I don't feel like we're getting anywhere here really but I can agree the age gap in your 20s is big! I'm always concerned I'm being prudish but decade plus age gaps when one partner is early twenties always rub me the wrong way lol. Have a good start to the weekend! โ๏ธ